Maybe this post should have been titled, two steps forward, one step back....Anyway,
I went to work this morning, and if any of you read my post last night, you know I went there alone.  No idea when abf came home from his walk, dont really care, I slept. 
Called him on my way home from work, he was happy, in good spirits, offering to make me something to eat, etc.  I had asked him earlier in the day to please go to the bank to make a deposit as I had paid some bills and needed the money there to cover them.  I never asked about it after that. 
On my way home, I passed him on the road, he was going to rent some movies for us to watch tonight.  Again, happy, hanging out the window, waving, and then called me and said, Hey I just saw you and wanted to say I love you, made me smile.
After a 40 minute trip to blockbuster, which is 5 minutes away, he returned home, I was in the bathroom.  He immediately went into "his" room, where he hangs out, mantown, if you will.  Never came beyond the living room doorway, never said hello, nothing.
I waited a few minutes and went into his room, he was sitting staring blankly ahead.  I asked him if he got the movies, he replied he had, I asked him if he went to the bank, he replied he had not.  I asked him why he hadnt and he stumbled over words, in my opinion, backpeddling for an  answer, and couldnt really come up with one.  I admit, I reacted, and I asked him where he stopped along the way to/from blockbuster...we did this last weekend too.  He just kept looking at me, with no reply.  I calmly asked him if he had been drinking, of course he said no.  I asked him to stand up, which he did, but then could not manage to keep himself standing for very long, and had to sit down, which he did by sorta falling onto the couch.  Then he started yelling at me how I made him feel like nothing, like a "spot".  I now I shouldnt have gotten into it with him, but I did.  I said, sometimes you act like a spot.  And if you are angry b/c I asked you to be responsible then thats ridiculous.  He asked me to leave the room and not talk to him for the rest of the day...I left and am not talking to him...He just came into the room I am in and is now acting like nothing has happened...literally, just now as I was typing.  Sometimes I feel like I am losing my mind here!  I guess I will follow his lead and act the same way, though I know the difference.  I guess its just about keeping the peace for now until I can work out a better solution for me.....thanks for letting me vent!
seeking peace,
jeannie