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I have'nt been on this board for quite a long time. I realized a while back that nothing I could say or do would help my A. After several attemps with recovery programs the coronor and pleading I gave up.
My daughter died on April 1st 2008. May she rest now in peace and comfort. The abuse of alcohol destroyed her body and tainted her thinking. She had pancreitous, liver disease kidney problems and hep c. She contracted pneumonia and her body could not fight it off. Soooo sad she was only 34.
God bless you all
I pray that you can reach the person in your life before it is too late. mom since 1973
My mother died of liver failure from alcohol. While I cannot say that I understand what you are going through losing a child, I do want you to know that I am sending prayers your way right now. God Bless.
((((mom)))) my heart goes out to you and your family. May your daughter finally find the peace in the arms of the angels that she was unable to find here. And may all of you find comfort in the memory of the beautiful person she was. My prayers and sympathy to you and yours, jeannie
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if you bring forth what is within you, what is within you will save you
I'm sorry for the pain you are going through. may you find the comfort to get through this and know that your daughter is at peace. God Bless you and your family
My daughter (also born 1973) used to say she didn't want to live past age 30. This was when she was 15. Thanks to many miracles in my life, and hers, she turned 30, sober, in 2003. And many of her friends and family remembered what she used to say.
I am saddened by your loss. This disease kills people, period. Sometimes I don't read this board for a while... the news is often too sad. The same old same old. But I need to be reminded, and to be grateful - but for the grace of God, my daughter might not be here today, my granddaughter and grandson might never have existed... or I might not be here myself to see it all.
I can't think of anything worse than losing a child. I stood on the brink... four times... and even though they were not my "real" kids, but stepkids - they are all I got and I have been part of their lives for 25+ years. I've seen it happen to friends in and out of the program. Life is precious, and I pray every day that I pay attention to every moment of it.
(((mom)))) Know that your precious daughter is no longer struggling and suffering. She is finally at peace, and being cared for by her loving creator. My heart breaks for you - as I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. It's a heartache that no-one should ever, ever have to experience. May you find strength, peace, and comfort.
I am so sorry for your profound loss. As the mother of two alcoholic daughters, I know the feeling of not being able to help. I have turned them both over and tried so very hard not to let fear take over. (((((hugs)))))
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"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience." - Woodrow Wilson
I couldn't respond the first time I read your post. I had no words. I know the utter agony that the loss of a child brings. I recall being on my knees asking HP when the terrible pain in my heart would end so I could function. I was in a mental daze for a very long time. I came to realize that I couldn't live my life in that manner, yet I gave myself permission to cry when I needed to. I actively had to choose to go on and seek happiness in my life. I chose happiness opposed to bitterness and downright hatred.
It was at least 2 yrs. before I could say my daughter's name without tears flowing. Give yourself as much time as it takes but try not to lose yourself. If that happens the disease has claimed yet another.
You must grieve in your own way, but please keep tucked away the thought that you can mentally survive this and even be happy again. I know it probably doesn't seem like a remote possibility right now. There is light at the end of this tunnel, however dim. The light will wait for you.
My thoughts are with you, Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
Mom1973, I want to add my deepest condolences here for you. You certainly did your part in attempting to get her well, but HP had other plans. I understand the excruciating pain of losing a loved family member by addiction related tragedy, and all I can say is repeating the serenity prayer might help you as it has me.
My precious friend my heart breaks hearing this disease has taken another life. My heart aches knowing there are no words for the pain to console you at this time. I can only speak as one mother to another whose child has this fateful disease I need you now more then ever before. I pray you find joy in the memory of those precious moments of good times passed. I pray you find peace in celebrating what it meant to be a mother and find strength to carry on. I pray you can one day lay down any guilt and know your heavenly father would not give you more than you can handle. What a wonderful person you must be to have been entrusted with such difficult lessons in life. I pray you find peace once again in your own time. Know my message is sent with love and respect during your darkest moments. I pray your message resounds to save others who may be on the same path as your daughter. Hold tight to your program and the love that is extended to you today.
I hope you will give yourself the knowledge that you did everything you coudl. This disease is cunning baffling and powerful. I have known people who died.
I can't imagine your sadness and pain.
I know the A who I was with is now both physically and mentally ill. I have had to "let go". I did more than I could.
