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Hi i am new here, but not new to al-anon. I have a 14 year old in recovery. I am proud of him but it is a hard road. He said his biggist problem is boredom. I have to work and so he has been alone a lot especially this week. He relapsed last night after 29 days. I am so disappointed and I am jealous of other moms who do not have to deal with this. At the same time, things are al lot better in our family since he has been in recovery. We are learining how to talk to each other. This is the first time he has relapsed and admitted it to me before being caught by the youth minister and "encouraged to admit. I think that is progress. Any way. I am glad ya'll are hear to vent to. i can't get to a meeting til tomorrow. Susan
Hey Susan. I am sure you are not alone in being jealous of other mothers, because they dont have to deal with that kind of stuff. But think of it this way: They are probably jealous of you, because you have the strength to.
Sometimes the best thing to do is to be supportive, but still not a doormat. Its a great thing that your son admitted to it. That truly is progress.
Thanks for the lift. Today is better. He met with his new sponsor. He was going on and on while ago about "No one likes me. Everyone hates me. I am not going to church because I hate the youth minister and don't want to have any relationship with him at all. He didn't feed us the other day and he had just gone to Buffalo Wild Wings the night before." I tried to give him some wisdom and he said, "I'm having a pity party right now. Don't tell me anything." An hour later the youth minister knocked on the door to see if he wanted to ride along to the store and he jumped up and went, happy as a clam. Teens are difficult enough to understand without addiction. One challenge is that he really needs adhd meds and takes them during the school year. He decided that he needed to try and learn to cope without them because he might get addicted. Someone told him that adhd meds are the same thing as meth. Meanwhile his impulsiveness is off the charts (great for dealing with addiction.) Anyway thanks again. I am off to try a new women's group that started here.
