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Just been to a f2f wow the topic was choices within my share I explained I find it very easy to see what choices should make to improve their lives however my choices tend to be better for other not me. lately I have been maker better choices because I am worried about the impact on my kids. Also I realise I carnt help him infact I think I hinder his recovery with my interfering. Some long time members said they could see how strong I have become and that I am making healthier choices. I still have a pulling feeling to help him but he has to make his own choices also. hope this share helps
Great share!! It sounds like you are really working your program. It is such a good feeling when others see the growth in us--I know, for me, it is hard to see it in myself sometimes. The program really does work if you work it!!
Yours in recovery,
SLS
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Do not be anxious about tomorrow; tomorrow will look after itself. The Bible, from Courage to Change, p.138
Hello Tracey - funny isn't it I was married for along time and in prog for awhile before I could admit that I had choices all my married life and for the most part I chose to do nothing - I just let it all happen and said nothing so when push came to shove the person I was angriest at was ME blame just din't work for me anymore . I hid behind my husb alcoholism for along time always thinking that if he would just stop I would be fine . wrong what helped me the most was allow them the dignity to live or die the way the way they choose ,who was I to tell anyone how to live thier life when it was obvious that I had quit living my own life along time ago ." giving him his life to live the way he chose while I got mine back was difficult but necessary for all of us . This is a simple program but never compare it with Easy . Louise
Great share and growth. Your awareness is right on and as you continue with working this program it will get even better with solid growth and miracles.
Thanks for bringing this to the board. I don't struggle with choices like a use to. I think and decide what it is that I am to do (HP's will always a part of it) and then proceed using acceptance of the consequences to complete the process.
Thanksfor the share. I too have been thinking about choices. Didn't realize that I had them. With my AHsober (we are separated) He has made almost all the choices. I felt so powerless and resentfull. But little by little I am realizing that I have choices if not just in some small way. When I sit quietly with my HP then my choices come to me.
it never ceases to amaze me how easy it used to be for me to see what was best for everyone around me! HA! I just thought this was the way everyone was- meddling. I thought this was how you showed others you cared. I learned in this incredible program that it is NOT. Better late than never!
Even when we refuse to make decisions, that is a decision, too. Sometimes its daunting and it certainly can be totally exhausting but with HP, it gets a lot easier, too. Great share, Hugs, J.
