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Good morning all! Today is a great day! The sun is shining, the birds are singing, and I woke up with a smile on my face. When I woke up this morning, realized so many things. I am happier today than I have been in a very long time. Why?....because I dont have to deal with anyone elses problems! I dont have to share my opinions, help them work solutions, which when offered in the past have not changed what they would do about the situation. I have simply been saying "hey if you dont like it, change it" and changed the subject. How simple, yet how totally freeing it is. I feel like someone has lifted the albatross from around my neck. My abf asked me if I was pulling away from him, I sorta chuckled at that and said "no, I am pulling closer to ME". He then said that he has never known me when he was sober and was afraid that he never would as I was "somewhat cold lately". I replied that I was not cold, that I was the same person I was when he was drunk all the time, just happier now. He is very frightened of the tools that I am learning and that I am indeed practicing them. I am no longer allowing myself to be caught up in his or anyone elses drama, and have noticed that this is making him and others angry....I am sure it is their own fears that make them react this way, but hey, not my worry....they will figure it out on their own, and if they cant be happy for my newfound strength, then **** em, they arent worth my time or effort anyway. Thank you all, for who you are and all you continue to do for me, for you, for all of us who have been drifting aimlessly for far too long! I'm gonna have a great day....join me?? jeannie
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if you bring forth what is within you, what is within you will save you
Yeah, this was my experience also- when I began using the tools, people got really angry and told me how uncaring I was. How inconsiderate I was. How I was part of a cult now and had set phrases and responses that sounded canned. I could have cared less. My AH and I are now getting divorced. I prefer this program, the people in it and the people who have stuck with me through this to all the tea in china. "weeding out" is the phrase that comes to mind. So be it- I like the freedom also- just like you said. To just shove it all off to HP, smile and get on with MY day. Hugs, J.
Wow you have made me feel so much better I have been using my tools and stopped rescuing I am having a break from Ab which may be for good once i GET THE STRENGTH we are still talking on the phone and ghe is still manipulating but I am not biting any more He is getting really angrey I was beginning to feel guilty but you have just sorted that thanks for your share
