The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I believe that I once posted about a customer and good friend that was having much trouble with being clean and sober and the ups and downs, ins and outs of relapse.
Two weeks ago she was bundled up much to chagrin and hauled off to the rehab program very near to my home. She was reluctant and once she got there started to work it. Myself and some of her friends were glad that she was clean and sober and in that environment and staying rather than running away and actually cooperating with the home.
I got news yesterday that she had fainted on the premises and taken to the hospital. While there they did a brain scan and found the return of a malignant tumor on her brain and of course she was discharged from the program and then from the hospital. I was told that she will not go thru another operation and was coming home to....die in her home however long that took. That of course also means in the using environment. I remain hopeful and gave her friend the address and web page and email to a very successful treatment program for brain tumors and asked him to check it out. I am sure he will I am also sure that whatever happens always is our decision. I am sure to see her in the next week and will spend time with her passing on program ESH.
Once accepted I fully believe that HP never gives me anymore than I can handle...as long as I keep my willful pride in check. Most of the time when things get really bad I can see where I have been the problem not God or anyone else.
So the prayers continue as usual...just for guidance and acceptance and courage to change the things I can after investigation.
My thoughts go out to you and your friend. There is always hope, no matter what. Many of us are so much more resilient than we know.
Love in recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
When I first began to work with my sponsor, she would always say, "God never gives us more than we can handle." At the time, I challenged that.... by passing along a story about an elderly friend I had... who believed that because her mother ended up in a mental institution at mid-life, that God CAN INDEED give us more than we can handle... mental institutions were PROOF.
My wise sponsor was quick to respond, "We can handle anything *if* we stay connected to God.... "
In the past, I have prayed, "Don't leave me God." I am now realizing that it is ME that drops my Higher Power's hand... when I separate myself from Higher Power, I suffer.... just as you describe, Jerry.
"I will never leave you, nor forsake you."
((((Jerry)))) I will be sending Love and Light to your friend...
-- Edited by glad lee at 07:55, 2008-08-04
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The prayer isn't for Higher Power to change our lives, but rather to change us.
Jerry, just what I needed coming out of court with my soon to be x...so much pain and fear and feeling like I am right up to my limit myself. So many complicated feelings! Such strong ones! Geez!
My best thoughts are with you, Jerry. You have been such a light to me, here on MIP- geez our lives are so full of pain and its a miracle at all that we can laugh and smile, some days.
I know this horrible pain will pass for me. It all passes- all the good stuff and all the bad stuff. It just all turns into stuff...passing. thank you for being a part of my journey today, a part of my recovery. Hugs and love and much aloha, J.
Much love, prayer and caring being sent right back to you, half way + around the world from me you may be, but here in my heart you and your friend will remain.
May the God of your understanding and the God of my understanding be right there by your sides, holding you and strengthening you both. I do, as you are aware, believe in miracles and I am praying for another one right now.
God Bless and thank you for sharing this with us today. You are inspirational and I know that you keep close to your HP...stay even closer now and I believe whatever is right will be.
Love Suzannah
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Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.