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This week was a whirlwind and I am left breathless. My VATS surgery of 7/14 has not left me sick. I am doing OK. BUT this week a phone call from the cancer center saying: "We want you to come in on August 6 to discuss chemo."......I was totally undone as I had just prayed so hard never to have to go through chemo again. I don't know what this is all about, but have accepted and now will go "discuss" as requested.
This week has also brought my son to his decision to attend AA meetings. He has been so despondent over his job loss, the money worries, and continuing divorce depression. But he has made a start with 7 meetings in 7 days. He says he is committed. I say...hope so (to myself). I am trying to be supportive and encouraging without getting involved. He needs financial help, of course. I am giving it. I refuse to allow him to lose his apartment and his car insurance. I hope that is not enabling and causing problems. So confusing. Anyway, he has had a couple promising interviews and another scheduled Monday.
So with my health issues, my husband's continuing health problems (and his very tenuous relationship with our son) and our son's situation and decisions, and helping care for the grandbaby, my week was such a whirlwind....both good and bad.
I would appreciate any ESH anyone might have as to how to continue to encourage my son with his new resolve but not enable him. And what to do and how to cope if he doesn't succeed??
I am so sorry about the prospect of more chemo, but will surely keep you in my prayers.
As far as ESH with my oldest daughter, I have severed all ties on my end. She did call two days ago to let me know she had moved for the umpteenth time. She's having to attend drug/alcohol counseling per her probation officer, and thinks it's a joke.
She also told me her psychiatrist may be prescribing her benzodiazapines (opiates) for her 'anxiety', and she thought that would be great because she can sell them.
I honestly believe she has mental issues that extend far beyond her alcoholism/addiction. I often wonder if she is a sociopath.
I do answer when she calls, but that is it.
Try to continue living in the moment. It makes life so much more manageable for me! (((hugs)))
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"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience." - Woodrow Wilson
So sorry you may have to go through chemo again. I will keep you in my prayers.
NO EXPECTATIONS....of your son's successfulness in AA. That is how I try to handle it. Let his HP take care of him. Everytime you have a negative thought say to yourself "Let go and let God" and go on with what you need to do to take care of you.
