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carosie


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Dear MIP Family,
  A week ago today my hubby passed away.  I lost my best friend...my soulmate.
My heart is broken.  I have been taken it an hour and sometimes a minute at a time.  He was the kindest  and gentlest man I have ever known.  He passed peacefully which was how he lived his life.  I find some comfort knowing that he will no longer struggle with depression and battle with the disease of alcoholism.
He was an awesome step-dad to my children who are now adults.  He brought much joy and love into our lives.  Those memories I will carry with me the rest of my life.  I was blessed to have found real love in my life.  I am so very grateful for the years we had together. 
I have found much comfort on this board and will continue to be part of this family.
You are all such wonderful, kind and compassionate people. 

your friend in recovery,
rosie

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(((((Rosie)))))

Let us hold you during your sadness and loss.  I know you will allow yourself
to be loved by the family.  Your discription of your life with him is like the
discription of a miracle for me, the kind I like to watch and experience.  It can
happen.  It happened for you.  I am grateful you share it with MIP because it
supports my hope level.  So loss has it's good side also thanks to HP.

(((((hugs))))) weirdface 



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carolena


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(((((((Rosie))))))

Rosie, I'm so sorry that you lost a good husband and that you must go through the pain of

the grieving process. You're in my prayers as well as your families. I haven't been on

the board for quite a while, so I don't know whether or not you have children.

Thank you for sharing this and please accept all the love that you'll find here. There are

A's who aren't abusive to their wives and you were blessed by having one of them.

I'm glad you've decided to stay on the boards and, as Jerry said, "let us hold you..."

As Toby Rice Drew says, "if it's good for you ---- it's good for others." Right now, you

may have to post for yourself - and that's okay. (It will help me and others more than you

know). Carolena



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Gailey


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(((rosie)))

I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Gail

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((Rosie)),
So sorry for your loss.
Nancy

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(((Rosie)))

Lou

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(((Rosie)))
adding you and your family to my prayers
blessings to you and your family
Jennifer

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thinkstoomuch


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(((((rosie))))), so sorry to hear this.  It is right and good to be sad when someone we love dies, but it's so hard.  We are here when you need us.

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I am so very sorry for your loss.

I pray the peace of having known real love will warm your heart when you hurt and the good memories will continue to bless your soul when you miss him.

-- Edited by glad at 12:51, 2008-07-23

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Leetle


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((((((((((((((((((rosie))))))))))))))))

I am so sorry for your loss.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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With love and respect may I extend my deepest sympathy for your loss.  Knowing only time will heal the sting of such grief. I pray you will soon know only happy memories of shared times.  May your HP comfort you during your struggle to come to peace with this change and may you find solace in knowing others care deeply. 

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Rosie,I cried knowing what you and Karilynn are going through. I know the lost feeling, the hole inside you.

That rawness, will have you see and understand things you never did before.
It is a time for you to totally think of you.Every person touched by this loss has to look out for themselves.

For me, naps, keeping hydrated,eating simple foods, as it is  hard to eat I am sure.

Stay close to your hp. If you can,have loved ones or one to stay with you.
I am so glad you kept your love for him so strong. You learned there was nothing wrong with continuing to love your dear AH.

I hope you will continue to come here and let us give you comfort.

Sending so much love, and that is the only thing that will get a person thru such hard stuff! debilyn

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((((((Rosie))))))

My prayers are with you.

David

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buick23


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Rosie,

I am very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.

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Dear Rosie,
I am so sorry for your loss. I'll be sending you Love and Light...

Take great care of yourself at this time.

((((((hugs))))))

-- Edited by glad lee at 14:36, 2008-07-23

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(((carosie)))

My deepest sympathy for your loss.  These things strike so close to home for all of us.  I nearly lost my husband several times and at one point thought his death was eminant.  We arehere for you for anything we can do.  The MIP family IS a family.  I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Christy

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((((((((((((((rosie))))))))))))))

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((( Rosie )))

I am so sorry,
my heart goes out to you...

Love and prayers,
Tracey

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I am so sorry for your loss Rosie , as u said he will no longer struggle with his addiction . Your memories will take u along way in recoving from his loss , you are very lucky indeed. Louise

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(((((((((Rosie))))))))) Peace and the hand of your HP be by your side during your time of sorrow. Know your MIP Family is always here for you.

Thoughts,Love, and Prayers, RLC

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(((((((((((((((((((((((((Carosie))))))))))))))))))))))))

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So sorry to hear that.  You know, I often tell my AH (we are separated now, going to get a dissolution) that we need to treat each other kindly, as not one of us knows when our last day on this earth will be.
It is surely a blessing that you were able to spend time with your soul mate, your one true love.  Some people never find that......

Know that you are both welcome and needed here.  HP will keep you folded close to his heart.

Love in Recovery,
Becky1

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laurab


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(((((((((((((((((((((((Carosie))))))))))))))))))))
I am glad you have good memories to ease your way.
Laura

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joyoma


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I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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May God hold your aching heart in his hands. ((((hugs))))

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Even now, no especially now Carosie, one day at a time, one step at a time, even one minute at a time...stay close to your HP and feel the love and support that is being sent to you today, and everyday as you travel this dark road of loss. Praying for serenity and peace until you are out into the sunshine again.

Love Suzannah, who is walking by your side right this minute.
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(((((((((((((((My Caro))))))))))))))))))),

I sit here with a heavy heart.gif at this shocking news.  First your (((((((bro))))))))) and now (((((hubby)))))).  There are no words that I can offer that will make this right right now. sadangel.gif 

Just know that we love you so much and are here for you.  I am pray.gif for you and your family.  You are a beautiful woman with dignity and grace and we are blessed for having you here at the MIP family.

You are so right that your treasured memories are a permanent gift that will sustain you through these tough days.  I am here for you when you are ready.

Love you My Beautiful Friend
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Rosie, I am so sorry for your loss. Deepest sympathy to you.
mspw

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So sorry my sweet. ((((Rosie))) Please take care of yourself.

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((((((Carosie))))))))))

I am so sorry to hear this sad news. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy. Sending hugs and parayers.

danz

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Lexie


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(((((((((((Carosie)))))))))))

I am just so sorry for your loss.  You are in my prayers. 

Love and blessings to you, Lexie



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hey you...I am so so so so so sorry. I wish there was something I could do or say but I know I can't. I pray that HP comforts you. I love you sooooooo much!!

                                                                                   Danette

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(((((((((Rosie))))))))))))),
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can feel the loving arms of your HP wrapped around you and that you can feel your MIP family supporting you, loving you, and praying for you.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Yours in recovery,
Mandy

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((((((Rosie))))))))

I am so sad to hear of your loss
and keeping you in my prayers.

hugs, ddub

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Hugs and love Rosie- J.

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(((((((((Rosie)))))))))))

I just heard and I am so very sorry. Keeping you in my prayers.

Please take good care of you....

Love and blessings

- ron

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Rosie,
May you find peace in the knowledge that he is no longer suffering; and may the memories of the wonderful love you shared bring you comfort.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Peace,
R3

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(((((rosie)))))

With deep sympathy,

Nancy

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((((rosie))))

you need only ask; we are here.

always, with love and hope,
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(((((Rosie)))))


As I awoke from my sleep last night, lying next to my AH (snoring & grinding his teeth) - I though of you. Even though I don't know you, I thought how sad for you not to have him with you any longer. May your memories keep him close in your heart forever.

Your posts have always been a source of strength. Continue to share your ESH with us, we need you.

Wishing you peace and serenity during this difficult time.

-- Edited by stariana at 15:01, 2008-07-24

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