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A lesson I learned recently---"Sometimes bad things happen for good reasons". I have been increasing my boundaries with certain people. I was working at a job where there was a lot of drug activity and pornography. One of my colleagues who is on drugs doesn't understand people's personal boundaries. He kept touching me without my permission and calling me honey and other names. I told him in a nice way that I don't feel comfortable with him calling me these names and touching me. I stated my boundary and said thank you. The next day I had papers thrown in my face from him, then he sent me an e-mail saying--Hi Honey. Have a great weekend baby. See you later sweetheart. He was now going to punish me for this. My boss always protects him because he is also on drugs. It's very sad that they are troubled with addiction; however, I did what was necessary to protect myself. I thought because I was fired it was a bad thing. That is not the case. I felt really good about myself for not accepting unacceptable behavior. I know my HP is taking care of me while I do the footwork to find a better job. Sometimes bad things do happen for good reasons.
that is an awesome report, (((kissers)))... damned straight, you are worth every inch of boundary... you truely sound like you have conquered quite a bit of fear. that is strength!
with love and hope cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
Yeah, k, life is too short for a work situation like that garbage...you deserve way better and its great that you know that! When something leaves our life it means its making room for something better- this situation needed to head south so you would be open to something new- go for it, HP will NEVER let you down, u know!! Good to hear from you and hugs, J.
Yes boundaries are indeed a very good thing, even when they may have negative consequences temporarily. Taking care of ourselves, physically, emotionally and spiritually is the best thing we can do. Our As (or any other people for that matter) may not like it or understand it. That's their business. But setting and keeping boundaries is so important. Until we do we will continue to be tread upon. I am so glad that I set a boundary with my relatives so many years ago. This was way before I found or needed Alanon. I am such the better person for doing so. At first I felt a bit isolated and like I wasn't being a good cousin or person. But I needed to get away from all the negativity they were generating. The longer I was away from it, the better I felt. Way to go for taking care of you. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
I've definitely been in jobs where the boundaries were all askew. I don't know there is a good way of spotting them. Certainly people don't say at an interview they are going to be all over you. Some people do say they are controlling buts is rare.
I wish you good luck in your job search. I've definitely been there in dealing with dysfunctional office situations. I feel for you.
