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Hi all Well it has come to this after alot of soul searching...I am moving out next Friday and will be on my own with my three small kids. I tried everything I begged I pleaded and I finally realized i cannot control my A the only person I have control over is myself. I pray someway we can mend the road we have have traveled but I also have gotten to the point I have to save me. Plain and simple....it will be hard and and it has really taken a toll on me but when you hit rock bottom there is only one way to go right? And I am taking the first step up with this decision.
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I dont want to be the bandage if the wound is not mine
wishing you lots of love and hope in your path toward serenity... for me, it was when my wife's behavior and sickness brought me to my knees; that is what directed me to make a change. stay up with your courage and boundaries, and take care of yourself gently!!!!
with love and hope, cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
I understand this will be hard but I'm glad you are taking care of yourself. I discovered this site a week ago when I was so lost and have already learned a lot and now I am happier with myself. I have also seen a change in my bf towards me in a good way. He is in recovery and I'm sure will go tru a lot of changes but I suppose he has noticed my change in attitude and it has something to do with it. If you and your hubby can at some point work it out that would be great. I wish you the best whatever you decide to do.
When I hit rock bottom I broke up with him. 3 weeks later he quit drinking, started going to AA and rehab. I still worry he might start again but I can't control that. I even had 2 dreams that he was drinking again. I'm trying to stay positive and am still working on taking it one day at the time.
Good for you. Taking care of yourself and kids. There are no wrong decisions. Make a decision and make it work. The disease of alcoholism is a family disease and impacts us all. But we don't have to go down the road with them.
I think you can relate to my post, MO14. Best of luck to you, and know that you are taking care of you and your babies......yes, I know it is hard, and hurts. But it does get better. I never thought I would leave, not in a million years. But I was so far down, I had no way to go but UP~! You are in the right place...... Glad you are here. Love in Recovery, Becky1
I've heard it said,"The only thing worse then coming from a broken home is living in one". I applaud your courage to seek a better life for the children who don't have a voice. Know you do not walk alone. Keep coming back.
Much support for you ((((((((((((((((((mo)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) as you embark on your new journey!
Think of all the fun you will have making your own decisions in every way there is: how you want your home to look, what TV shows YOU want to watch, if and what YOU will cook for dinner, what behaviors and examples YOU want to give to your children, the peace and serenity in the house because they are not dealing with tension between mom and dad.
It's always bittersweet but if you focus on the positives (and write them down as a daily reminder if you need to), you will find light, love and laughter.
I love Peggy's quote. Had never heard of it, but it is profound, especially for the children who truly are powerless. We adults, however, are not.
Keep us close by and post as much as you need to get the love, encouragement and support.
love in recovery, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
