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just a quick check up..feeling a bit out of sorts..my a went away for the weekend..hurah..i think she will be back on monday..i say good riddence to her right now
this is how i feel
hung out with my friend today but was reminded about people from my past and even giving myself away
my co dependent nature..this is why i want to stay out of relationships for a while..i need to heal myself and i still need to get my life in order
i enjoy my free time alone..i think i gave myself away this mornign and afternoon and am trying right now to retrive myself..get grounded again..breath the breath of life and simply have a good time
i hope my a dosen't come back but i'm certain she will..we have been talking about the idea of just being friends..that would be fine for me right now and i hope this will happen
i just feel like i need some time off from everything right now except my programs..my art..my music and my therapy
i am asking my higher power for help in guiding me in the right direction..i think he will
keep breathing, man... for me, it took lots of that time to slow down and learn what it was i really wanted.
it sounds pretty clear that you don't want that girl around. don't forget that you do NOT need her approval to put your relationship where you think it belongs. of course, she will be outraged and upset... doesn't that happen everytime our A-partners don't have things how they think they should be? but that is not ours... we can be gentle and loving and STILL hold true faith to our feelings.
keep up the Self-Care, you are doing great! with love and hope, cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
Hi Charles,sure is nice to hear from you. Glad you keep coming back.
Sharing with you something. I remember how you feel.I lost me or really did not know me.
I was on my own raising my two kids as a widow.Decided I did not have time or energy to have a male relationship. Wanted to grow up and raise my kids.
Got to where I found out what I enjoyed. The kids and I hiked,swam, rafted all over the place, we did numerous day trips to fish hatcheries,the zoo, etc. I went back to college.
Learned who I was and how strong I was. Did not need a man in my life but wanted one. He was truly extra, precious.
Knowing this I kept my options open.Paid attention and was careful. Did not rush into anything.
Without an influence of another we can grow and have time to focus on ourselves. Especially the influence of persons who are very problematic and come with drama.
In this post I could see more of you,more of the calm artist you are inside. Sure would like to see more of him.
Charles it is not your job or responsibility to take anyone in. It is better that A's are left on their own and not babysat.They get nowhere when they are enabled. An A needs to find their own power, on their own. If we take care of them,we are damaging them.
I hope you will care about you enough to take this chance to do what you love!!
We have seen how passionate you are when you are angry!! I invite you to use that passion on something that is good for you!!
I remember, when things in my marriage were just horrible, deciding that I would be better off if I took the kids and left. Lay awake all one night, working out details, and realizing that it could be done. The next day, I told my husband that this was what I wanted to do. He said "No, don't do that" and so I didn't. I realize, looking back, that I was asking him for permission to leave him. It honestly never occurred to me that I didn't NEED his permission.
hugs,debilyn