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AH's phone number says you are connected, but they are not taking calls.
She is very ill,cancer. So is she dieing, if so I don't want to lose track of AH only for business reasons.
OR he is very ill and dieing,and I need to know this. Business reasons again.Also becuz I care very much.
so do i just go knock on the door?do i wait outside until someone goes in or out???
I have all his important papers, Veteran stuff,birth C, uno.I pay his life insurance.
I would love ideas.Maybe you can think of a way to do this.
no i am not upset. My joints are having a party so excuse the bad typing. hugs and thank you!!! Calgon take me awaaaaay! ps I may go away this week end to camp and do nothing with son his friend,and i will bring tavishbasset
oh oh oh my friend is letting me buy her car with little payments!! good car too,nice looking,clean, kept up.pontiac sunburst or bird. uses soooo little gas.
i will have windows that close so I won't freeze in winter!! does not hurt me to open the doors,roll windows, uno? the backseat lays downso lots of rooom for goodwill stuff! (o:
I am so happy I cannot believe it yet!!! I feel sooo blessed!!!
Hi Debilyn, congrats on the car - that's great for you!!
not sure about what on stuff with AH - but sending out prayers and good thoughts for your HP to give you the wisdom to make the best decisions for you.
hope you have a great weekend, Rita
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Hi Debilyn! Very exciting news about the car! I just bought myself a new car too that's great on gas.
As for contacting your AH... I'd be afraid for you to just go knock on the door. You never know what you could be walking into. Is there any way you can dig up any information about what's going on with him and the woman? That's what I think I would do. Make a couple calls, drive by and see if I can see what's happening... no one will recognize you with your new car!
Just my thoughts for now... Take care of you...
Artygirl
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My phone is not working either. Could be anything. Phones can go wrong for lots of reasons. I think we jump to conclusions that it is dire because we are used to it being dire but it may not necessarily be dire.
I would not go and see where he is. I would wait it out since you live nearby. Patience is your best virtue.
This is a difficult one. They both have the right to keep their states of health private, no matter what you or I or anyone else thinks.
As for the phone, it could be a fault on the line, have you tried reporting it to have it checked out?
If you cannot get through by phone there is nothing to say that you would be wrong to drop a note through the door, especially if it is a business communication, asking AH to get in touch with you, or, if he is too ill, asking her to let you know because you have a business concern to talk to him about. If it is her that is ill, then that is nothing to do with you and there is nothing you can do if she, he or both do not want you to be enlightened here. You can only hope AH gets back to you re your business concern.
As for the personal side, I know you care and will never be any different so of course you are going to be concerned until you hear from AH at the very least. You could say as much in your note, especially as he is STILL your AH...and then I think it is over to your HP.
In the meantime, I am delighted and relieved to hear about your new car with the closing windows and the low fuel costs...that is certainly answer to prayer. So, please Debilyn, enjoy your weekend with Tavish and the boys no matter what happens or does not happen regarding the business concern you have with AH.
Hopefully, after the weekend - for there is little you can do now over the weekend - your AH will have responded and if not, we will have to put our thinking caps back on...sending you love, Suzannah
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I'm thinking if you know it is not going to invite a lot of trouble, then you could drop by just to check on her and/or him. This is where the personal decision comes in. I would ask myself some questions. Am I just being melodramatic? Am I needing to keep tabs on him? Is there truely an imediate reason to be concerned for their well-being? Will I invite trouble/violence if I stop by? Am I just prying where I have no right? Is there any other way to get in contact or a friend who could check just to make sure they are ok? Can I wait a couple of days to see if the phone is fixed?
My thinking is that if you had a friend, who had a medical condition and was not related to your AH, and the phone was acting funny like this, would you be concerned and stop by to check? Only you can answer all of these questions. You know we are here to support you no matter what.
Love in recovery,
PS Congrats on the car. Way cool! Me next, ok?
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Hopefully all is OK there. If not, I'm sure the news will surface. Either way there is probably not much you could do. I was thinking about the "business papers" tho... It might serve you well to hang on to all of it. You may need it someday (assuming you are still the beneficiary). Seems like if he needed them he'd have asked by now.
If you give the papers to him, Lord knows what hoops you may have to jump through to retieve them.
Christy
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no, there is nothing wrong with the phone. People do this so they are not disturbed at all. It goes thru so there is nothing wrong, it says this, then it says they are just not taking calls right now.
I know she was very ill the last time we spoke. So sad, she was looking pretty good but not anymore.
There is nothing melodramatic,that is not my style. I am the last person who wants anything to do with drama. All I know is when it comes time for me to get the divorce I want to know where he is.Also it is my responsibility to bury him. He has a disease. I don't hate him at all. I don't hate her as she took him in,though it is or was enabling, she gave him a place to be.
He is still my husband and has not done anything to hurt me on purpose for two years now. This is part of why he could not be around me. Since we were kids he hated to see me cry or be hurt.He knew and knows how much his condition kills me.
Anyway,yes I will go ahead and send a note to him. If I lose track of him,then I do and I will continue to see him in hp's hands.
I cannot help how I feel. Been there all my life. I know he is not him anymore, but it is his body. When we became one as husband and wife finally, the bond is even stronger for me.
It never,ever changes. I know he is horribly tortured by the disease.
Can't help it. I want to see him before he dies.
thank you very very much for responding, every post made me think.
jerry i think it says sunfire on the side. the car. been so long since I had a normal vehicle. big time grateful.
i just talked to hp and said," I don't want to miss him anymore!" You would think a person would somehow be able to let it go. Just is no way.nor more than I would stop missing my arm if it were cut off.
Yeah, I'd go with a note in the mail - "I've got all your papers if you were wondering where they were, let me know if you want them sent on" kind of thnig.
