The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Does anyone know anything about this topic? I'm afraid a loved one of mine is getting into this crap. On their days off, all they do is look at this junk or play games on the other computer. I don't know how to approach this person or even what to say. I need help with this.
Not porn addiction. There have to be some websites that address this. My AHsober has been sober for over 20 years. However, he has picked up other addicitons; he is back to cigarette smoking, TV, movies, computer games for hours. So for him any addiciton will do.
It's not your job to fix anyone or be anyone's Higher Power.
BUT, if you are in a relationship with someone, you are certainly entitled to let that person know that you have concerns. You can talk about what YOUR needs are and that you have fear that the new hobbies/habits will not allow for your needs being met. You can talk about YOUR boundaries of acceptable behavior. And you can talk about all of that openly, honestly, calmly and (if true) lovingly.
That would be my approach... I would want to make sure MY motives are pure. This is a great topic. A lot of alcoholics/addicts don't get healthy even after stopping usage because they trade their addiction. All in all, they remain emotionally unavailable and unstable, and the same behaviors continue.
with love and hope, cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
In the face to face meeting I used to go to, there was an attendee who's ex-spouse had been a sex/port addict. I know this person got a lot out of alanon in the way of coping with their feelings, and understanding control issues, detachment, and addictions as a disease.
At the Treatment Center where my ex-AW finally got sober, they treat many types of addiction, including porn/sex addictions.... They state that "addictions are addictions are addictions", and the treatment is literally the same, whether we are talking alcohol, illicit drugs, sex, gambling, or whatever....
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
