The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I handle most people the same way I try to handle the A. I let them live their own lives, and don't take whatever they do or say personally. If they are too impossible to get along with, I just steer clear of them, or ignore them. I find that the programs principles work in every relationship I have.
Hope that helps.
In recovery,
__________________
~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
As for me, I too try to look at people as people and not problems. I often think about how I would like to be treated and hold the maxim, if it is right by my God [Higher Power] then it is right with me. However, I also remember that they are free to take me as I am or walk away. The decisions are theirs, but if they ask for help or I can see that I can help then I will offer it without expectations. If my help is accepted then wonderful, if it is rejected well and just pray that someone else will be able to help where I have not.
I try to practice unconditional love...just love and let go...my love is freely given it does not come with a price tag attached...a smile, and hug, and being there to listen, a gentle offering of HOPE is often the way forward for anyone, after all we are all here for the same reasons, Alcohol has affected our lives.
Suzannah
__________________
Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.
This is my own ESH just about my own situations. I find many codependents who are not in recovery very very controlling. I was and can still be myself. For whatever reason I find myself reacting to that a great deal these days. Of course we will have issues with those who mirror our faults. I hate to think about being controlling and grandiose. I certainly was. I also find around other unrecovered codependents I want to "fix" it.
