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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The A called this weekend and one year later I do not even answer the phone. One year of patiently working al anon. He called to ask to see the dogs. Since he abused both of them I'm not about to do that. I have nothing left to say to him. When I last him he was at my storage. He got nasty and loud and I felt embarassed. Who needs that in your life.
So I said nothing, did nothing, erased the message straight away. End of story.
For me its a good 3 years of working al anon to get to self preservation. The most important preservation is for my dogs. As you all know I've made significant huge sacrifices to have them with me. Why would I then turn around and let them be abused?
The A wasn't always as bad as he is now (note I also didn't make any attempt to find out how he is now). I'm not hooked into that loop anymore. I have more than enough to do with taking care of me and my dogs. I have my own projects to attend to. I dropped everything so many times for the A until there was nothing left to drop. The stress that put me under made me very very ill. I'm not going back there.
Good for you Maresie. It took a long time and a lot of work, but you are on the right road.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
