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I just want to let you all know that even though I joined MIP last week, I have been reading so many posts, and I'll tell you, I am learning so much from all of you. I'm learning new tools and also sayings that make so much sense and put things in a new perspective. I may be a little down right now, but coming here and reading really brings me up and I know that it's all going to be OK. Again, thanks.
Queenie, glad your here too, it does take tools to live with an active A, nagging, begging, threatening, doesn't work. I know, I lived with an active A for 26 years, he has been sober for 6 days, going to AA twice a day, that DUI he just got was a Godsend, his first, but a felony because he hit another car. Who knows what it takes for the A to hit their bottom. Their disease is not for you to figure out, there is no answer. Alanon is for you , not the A, get strong, concentrate on you, seek your higher power, that is important, Detach!!!!! Dont let the A be the focus!!! live Queenie, for you.!!!! Luv, Bettina
(((((queenie105))))) It makes me feel almost as good as you reading your post. So many people come here to MIP with problems, and get the advive and experiences as you did when you first posted. The secret is to put it into practice. Sad., but some never come back. The greatest thing about Al-Anon is you continue to learn. Like anything it has to be applied to our everyday lives for it to work. Practice,Practice,Practice. You are doing that and I am very proud of you. You are what we call in my Al-Anon group "A Success Story". If you have not gone to a f2f meeting, please go. You will meet some wonderful people there and your life will just keep getting better. RLC
You have definitely come to the right place. Those of us who are living with an active A have realized that AlAnon gives us the tools we need to cope with it.
When I first came here, I was desperate. My AH had just retired and was spending every day drunk on the couch in front of the TV. I dreaded coming home from work. I felt that there was nothing to come home to. I had become bitter and angry feeling that I was overworked while he was just wasting his time away with a bottle in his hand.
Then I discovered this website. Each day that I came here I had new hope. I started attending f2f meetings and found that there were others who shared my experience.
Although not a whole lot has changed here at home, I have changed. I rely on my HP to guide me through this madness. I can truly say I am happy most of the time. I know that I can't change the fact that my AH is still drinking, but I can change the way I deal with it.
I also have found that I am not alone, nor do I have to deal with it alone.
Keep coming back, and we'll be here to share our ESH (Experince, Strength and Hope) with you!!
Love,
Claudia
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I am also glad you are here. I know how much an online community can help. It may sound strange to other people but it really helps in so many ways. I know that I have not been here long but I am also a part of a Natural Parenting forum. I know that as I begin to post more here I will get more help. Now I have a forum on things I can learn and ask questions about raising kids and I have one for living with my drunk Husband. LOL Now I just need to find a forum about living with a crazy cat too.
