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Hello. I'm new here. My AH and I have been together 15 years & married just 1. I postponed the marriage for a long time because of the drinking. Then I accepted my fate and decided I wasn't going to leave and decided to marry him, under the impression that God blesses marriage & all my problems will be fixed if I prayed hard enought. Well that didn't happen. On September 27, 2008 I attempted to kill myself. During my hospital stay my AH continued to drink despite all that was going on. Once discharged I sought the help of AL-Anon. I'm yet to find a group that I mesh well with, but continue to do research & chat online. About a month ago I really accepted that there is nothing I can do about my husbands problem. I'm learning to disconnect from his issues and focus more on developing my self-esteem & pursuing some of my own goals. I really need help on learning & working the 12 steps. Also I'm just looking for support.
Glad to have you back into the program that has given so many strength, encouragement and hope. You will find many who share your same sorrows and with whom you will have much in common. Listening to the shares and finding a face to face meeting will do you the most good. Along with getting your hands on daily literature such as Courage To Change, One Day At A time, How Alanon works. Locate someone you see has traits that you want to acquire and have courage to ask for their assistants. We are all here to help one another through pains and hurts and sorry along with anger and confusion we've all shared. Keep coming back.
Just a quick hello and to say you have found a great source of strength here. I have been involved with Alanon for three years, and had attended face to face meetings in the past, but nothing beats this site for strength and support. I have found that just by reading other's stories gives me a different perspective on my own situation.
I, too, married a man that I knew had some issues with drinking/drugs, but NEVER in a million years had any idea what a true addict really was all about. I have gone through many phases of his addictions, from drinking to pills to crack. We still struggle for serenity and a solid streak of "clean & sober", but I don't know that he can do it forever. Just yesterday I confronted him about smoking pot, his latest. It seems to always be something, so, I know for me, coming on here makes it all bearable. The folks on here truly, truly understand and are the most supportive group of people you could ever want to find.
