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Although, I haven't been very active posting on this board, I frequently read the posts and want to thank everyone and tell you how grateful I have been to read your words of encouragement to other members. The unwaiving support that I have read regularly provided me the foundation that I needed to get here.
It took me a really long time to get myself here but my ADAH has finally pushed my last button. I took my time, slowly, sometimes very slowly, making changes towards this day - the day that I can walk away and not need ANYTHING from him. I close on my first home next Tuesday, the home that will be for me and my son, without my ADAH. I have finally emancipated myself and don't need him for $ or insurance or anything else anymore. I may have continued to enable him to get to this place, but no longer. He will hit bottom, but this time, he can't take us with him.
I am commited to healing from the emotional rollercoaster that I have been on for so many years and appreciate having this board to turn to. Once again, thank you all for being so supportive and when I step off this horrific ride that has been my life, I will be back to help support others.
I wish you the best!!!! It is a such a hard decision to make, but enough is enough. I am happy that you are finally doing what is good for you and your child. I will hopefully be doing the same soon.
financial independence is key. Its is key for EVERY SINGLE WOMAN no matter what. I wish to god my mother would have told me this when I was a child. I cannot underline this more- especially us women working in a mans world where we make something like 70 cents on the dollar, we gotta watch out for ourselves and tuck a little away for ourselves every single day, I swear. We need to not get into traps so much. great post ak, I did the same thing- except I went to grad school instead which increased my clout to get better jobs- I invested in myself while in the marriage...it was the smartest move of my entire life. I just got a great job offer, I am debt free and almost divorced from the AH. Most importantly, I am peaceful. Hugs, J.
