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My son and I have been battling back and forth thru email-----I shouldn't say battling---they will not pick up the phone, or email. Well yesterday DS called me and I mean he was VERy mad--just yelling at me on the phone. A month ago their marriage was over---now its turned around and I am the big blame for everything and i mean everything. I told him he scares me (mentally not physically)-He is just like his dad myEX A. But I will not tell him that--what is the point. I emailed him yesterday and really poured my heart out and said I was sorry (again don't know for what) (trying to make peace)....His wife is saying things to him that I did not say..on and on it goes. MY BP is soaring. He wrote me a nasty email today again----totally really is hard on me. I had this email all wrote and ready to send him--but thought what would alanon say. Let Go and LEt God. But I will not call anymore or email---I have asked for the kids 5 times and there is always a excuse.....no more on my part. I am really detaching. This is really hard on my marriage and DH does not deserve this. I have to say I am so disappointed and cannot believe my son is acting like this. Do you think I did the right thing by not responding nasty to the email?
absolutley did the right thing why keep a usless argument going . He has already made up his mind and your trying to explain or justify only makes things worse . If you havent done anything why apologize ??? Your not here to be abused by anyone and that includes your son . U don't have to listen tohis abusive phone calls when he starts - ask him to stop talking to yu like that or your going to hang up the phone if he dosent hang up . it won't take long for him to figure out that your not going to take that chit any more . set boundaries for your relationships and stand firm . good luck Louise
I totally agree with Abby, Let it Go, after all he is your son....you love him very much and you are hurt. Sometimes when we are hurting we say what we don't mean.
As far as I know...all electronic devices have off buttons. They can work wonders at saving a persons serenity. Of course letting go and letting God during the whole process.
