The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Sometimes HP gives us what we need, when we need it and we are not even aware.
With my work I have recently encountered someone that is in charge of the system that pays me and makes referrals to me.
I saw red flags the first meeting with him,instead of just walking away and not accepting business from his office anymore I wanted to "win him over".
Now several months later he continues to:
Seems to think it is a battle between us- who is the smartest.
Doesn't trust anything in my reports and anything I say and doubts all I do.
Speaks disrespectfully to me in meetings with clients.
Misrepresents the truth constantly to clients, me and his supervisors about random things- not just things to do with me. Constantly finding faults with others.
Yesturday in a meeting instead of arguing with him (I would have been right every time) calling him on all his mistakes and perhaps calling in his supervisor (who is nice and has been supportive, but is not exactly a "rock" himself). I just let it all go.
All I wanted to do was say what HAD to be said to accomplish the goal of the meeting. And get the heck out of there.
This morning upon reflection I believe he may be a recovering A or maybe Addict. (this agency would see that as a plus in hiring as they work with people wth disabilities and being a recovering addict is certainly a disabilitly legally and actually as we all know).
So all that said to say: Regardless of my personal life I may have been prepared by alanon to be able to deal with this person, it felt good not to be at all mad about his attempts to frustrate and anger me, not even feel like I got back at him by avoiding conflict. Just focused on the goal of meeting and moved on. Feel like a stable rational normal person (at least in regard to this instance) Thank you Higher Power!!!!
I also think I need to just walk away from accepting business from him because I have been doing this type of work for over a decade and am proud of my professionalism in my field and he is gonna blow it big time sooner or later and I don't want to be in the middle of it.
I have this one young client with a head injury that I ma not be able to offer services to when I do that but I can't put my strong feelings for him and his family above my need to keep myself safe.
Thank you God!! Thank you alanon. Thank you guys for listening!
Ok, I replied to this topic yesterday. Where is it?
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
