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I am pleased to tell you all i worked up the courage to go to my first f2f meeting. Everyone was so nice to me, a little touchy feely for my liking as im not use to hugs, but guess its something i should get use to.
Josh let out a huge burp whiched echoed around the church hall, was really funny.
Feel better for going. Reinforces the fact im not alone.
Thanks for the welcome. Not sure if I'm ready for a f2f. Not even sure if I'm ready for this. Feel guilty. Feel conflicted. Feel scared that he'll find out and it'll upset the "status quo" so to speak, which isn't so great as it is. My husband is a wonderful man, the best father a kid could have. He's been my rock these past 18 years through many mental and physical issues including very major surgery in Jan. He loves me and the kids soooo much. How can I betray him? I try to talk to him but can't seem to come right out and tell him to stop, especially since I struggle with my own alcohol issues. But I'm stronger than him in that respect and I feel like if he'd face his problem then we could do this together. Alcoholism is slowly permeating our home situation. It's starting to effect our kids in subtle ways. And I'm losing respect for the man that I once held on the highest pedestal. What's worse, I even hate him at times, especially when he drinks. And I hate myself for feeling this way but he's headed down a path of self-destruction and I'm not sure what I can do to help him. I'm scared....
Wonderful news (((((((((((((mum2)))))))))))))). I know getting to that first meeting is a hard step. Glad Josh broke the tension! Hope you picked up some literature. The hugs took me a while to get used to too. Actually I started doing "virtual" hugs in here, and after a time realized I was doing more "live" hugs too.
welcome (((((((((((((2tired))))))))))))))))). There's a list of abbreviations in the FAQ sticky. You are definitely in the right place - perhaps you'll be a "double winner", one who is a part of both AA and Alanon. Perhaps not. In any case it is not a betrayal to seek help with YOUR issues of fear, trust, confusion, etc. Sometimes an alcoholic will see recovery in their loved one and want it for themselves. Sometimes not. But this is a great place to start to see what some of your choices are.
By the way, you can get a free newcomer packet at that f2f meeting - it has several good pamphlets. Everyone there will be there for the same reason you are - when you're ready to go.
I felt the same about my situation and I thought if i had an infection or was ill id go to the doctors and get help. So why shouldnt i get help with this.
I didn't like the hugs at first either. And we do this corny thing after the Lord's Prayer....It works if you work it so work it you're worth it!
I hated that part too for a long time. Just felt like a dork with all the warm fuzzy stuff. Today, I look forward to getting a hug from my friends who undertstand. I find comfort in the touch of another human being, knowing there is no expectation. Just one human comforting another.
And the little saying, well, I like it now. Still feel a bit silly, but who cares. There are so many that say it with such conviction that it means something to me now.
Good for you for going!!! It does get easier. It is such a great thing to do just for YOU!!!
