Step back and take a few deep breaths. You did what came naturally when you talked to your family members about your concerns with your adult kids. Your son has told you they just need time. That is something you can DO....your can step back and give it time.

I have been where you are. My children divorced anyway; nothing I said or did could stop it or make it easier. We are still in recovery from the break-up. I am anyway. I have had to learn the hard way that any interference from me into their lives meant I would get a payback down the road. I got sick during this trauma....very sick. My husband got sick. We are in turmoil much of the time over our grandchild. But truly, nothing we say or do made a difference nor makes a difference now. We took an opposite turn from what you are worrying about....telling others in your family. We told no one. Most of our friends and family know nothing about our children's divorce yet; we aren't ready to discuss it. In some ways that has made it much harder. But at least our son hasn't had cause to get angry with us that we discussed his problems with others.

We never really know what truly goes on in the marriages of other...not even our adult children. So don't beat yourself up for needing to talk to someone. Whatever happens, you didn't cause their problems, you can't control their problems, you can't cure their problems. Just stand back and be there for the grandchildren.