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Today is my Friday! (assuming you don't count my 2nd job in which case Saturday is my Friday LOL) Next time I come here I will be a divorced woman! For those of you who know my story you're probably saying it's about dang time!!! ;) Monday is the court date to finalize the divorce and give me full custody of my son!!! I am hopeful that there will be no problems and things will go through without a hitch. I feel pretty positive about it going that way. I will be so relieved when I have that piece of paper saying I have full custody and never have to worry about him taking my son again (even tho the worries are probably over imagination). I will finally be able to get him a passport and we can take trips out of the US (money willing). I plan to start that process as soon as I get the papers! I'd love to take the kids on a fabulous vacation if the money arose!
My oldest daughter is failing her last 9 weeks of math still and it's looking like she won't be passing on to the 9th grade. This has been a source of extreme frustration for me for the past few weeks (as it has just come to light). I'm frustrated with the school, I'm angry with her, I wish I would have done something about it sooner but am not sure it would have helped considering the school situation. I feel confident that I have done everything I can to help and I sleep well... :) I hope that if she is held back that it will not cause her to lose interest in school and end up a drop out as she is BRILLIANT! She has a mental block against math and social studies LOL. Everything else is fine and she passes social studies.
So my life has steadily gotten better since moving out almost 2 years ago now (wow seems like so long!) and I feel happy most of the time. I still have much room to grow but I'm finding my free time shrinking and shrinking... Seems like there's not enough. I remember in the beginning feeling as if I had soooo much free time and nothing to fill it up but my woes and worries about the A... Now it is honestly full and I wonder sometimes and frequently have others wonder too - how I do it all.
All I can say is one day, sometimes one hour, one minute at a time! I feel like I have made such progress and that I have a happy, bright, cheerful, positive outlook on life again. I can't even remember the last time I felt this way.
I am still doing my exercise and diet routine and have lost somewhere between 10-15 pounds. I cheated on the diet yesterday and am trying not to beat myself up too much about it! Darn that mexican food!! But most days I have been to the gym and done my workout at 6am. That in itself is a miracle as I hate getting up early and I hate to sweat. I feel pretty good though and have more energy. I sure wish weight would go away faster... LIKE NOW!! LOL I did skip the exercise for a few days because I had strep throat last weekend and all the kids have it too so I couldn't bring myself to get up... and yesterday I was lazy... but I'm definitely doing better than I was and it's progress not perfection right???
Glad to hear your wonderful news. I know how long you have been waiting for this. Full custody!! Fantastic!!
I'm jealous of your weight loss. You go girl!!
I'll be praying for your daughter. Sometimes repeating a grade makes all the difference. Different classmates, and different teachers sometimes can change things for the better. Let's hope that this will be the case for her.
Thanks for sharing your good report and keep us posted.
Love,
Claudia
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I soooo sympathize with your daughter on the math front. I HATED math. I never really "got it". I nearly failed my algebra class in 9th grade. I don't know how I made it through, to be honest. My HP must have been watching out for me.
But you're right - your daughter IS brilliant. There's hope for us mathematically-challenged! ;) (Hey, I graduated High School with a 4.0 GPA). Heh.... helped that my senior year in High School I didn't have a math class, though - my last year of math was sophomore year geometry... and geometry, I GOT. In fact, I was so enthusiastic about it, I was actually considering taking trigonometry, but decided to pass when I learned I'd have to take calculous before I could take trig!
Congrats also on your weight loss! I found through my weight loss journey that there's no such thing as cheating. It took me a long time to stop categorizing certain foods as "bad" foods. I now take the "everything in moderation" approach, and it's pretty nice. I feel like I eat like a normal, healthy human being. I still have pizza, chocolate, etc., it's just watching the portions that makes it possible.
Progress not perfection. I keep reminding myself it is all work, all grist for the mill. I am so glad you feel better and more hopeful. I am also glad that you absolutely know you have done the best you can. No one can ask more than that.
I stayed back a year in high school once because of illness. I dreaded it but it was really not that traumatic at all. I had a few sarcastic remarks that I had an advantage I could let them go because it was so ridiculous.
I know when I divorced (not from this last A since we were not married) when I got the final piece of paper it was a huge feeling.
LIKE NOW!! LOL I did skip the exercise for a few days because I had strep throat last weekend and all the kids have it too so I couldn't bring myself to get up... and yesterday I was lazy... but I'm definitely doing better than I was and it's progress not perfection right??? 
