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Hello Alanon family! I haven't posted in a very long time. I've still been here reading once in a while. I wanted to share with you that I'm beginning a new chapter in my life.
As many of you know, I left my Alcoholic/cocaine-addicted husband in September 2006 and my divorce was final in March of 2007. I was forced to sell my house and have been living with my mom since I left him. I've had a lot of financial difficulties as a result of my ex-husband's drug addiction. He drained every account we had, opened new credit card accounts without my knowledge and maxed them out. I somehow managed to pay off much of the debt and have consolidated the rest into one tidy little monthly payment. My ex has somehow managed to get and keep a job and is now paying me a small amount each week.
I met someone new around the same time my divorce was final. I wasn't looking for anyone. I really wasn't interested in meeting anyone right away. I was okay with being by myself for a while. I had a myspace page for keeping in touch with friends. This man saw my myspace page and emailed me, I emailed back... and so on... until about a month later when we met in person. We've been dating ever since. We've decided to move in together. I'm moving into his place. This Friday will be my official move-in date! He owns a cool old downtown building with a loft apartment, he's not an A and has no addiction issues. He's smart, funny, energetic, artistic, creative, and really a lot like me. A lot more like me than my ex. He's training me to ride trails on my mountain bike and teaching me to play a drum kit (something I've always wanted to do!) I never expected this but here I am... and I'm really happy about it!
Back when I made the decision to come here, made the decision to leave and divorce my husband, it was so hard, so devastating. I never thought I would be happy again. Now I'm absolutely the happiest I've been... maybe ever! I'm still struggling a bit financially, but I feel stronger, more sure of myself, and so much happier.
Thanks to all of you who've been here for me.
Artygirl
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He is a really great guy. He does like my dogs, and my dogs absolutely love him and follow him around the apartment. He has a sweet little cat named Gracie. We made sure to introduce the dogs into her world slowly. She was a little timid at first but now she's walking around with more confidence and the dogs mostly ignore her.
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True test of the value of a person: Does my dog like him? I honestly believe that our dog can somehow tell, and will let us know the character of our associations. And he has a cat!!! That's even better. YAY!!
Good for you. Enjoy your new relationship. I like the sound of this guy.
Best wishes,
Diva
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wow a lovely story. I am very much still in the chaos mode. Oddly enough after a period of trying to date I've stopped for a while. I'm more focused on what I need to do next rather than look for someone.
I am glad you sound so grounded and happy. I hope this will work for you. If it doesn't we know we can survive pretty much anything after dealing with an active A.
I hope this will work for you. If it doesn't we know we can survive pretty much anything after dealing with an active A.
That's what I'm thinking... I've been through rough times.. this will either work out or it wont. I can always pack up my stuff and my dogs and go on to the next thing. I don't anticipate that happening... but you never know. And... I'm keeping all my finances separate from his! :D
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Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.
wow just what I needed split with my AB 2 weeks ago so up and down been having a bad day 2 day really angey with myself and him thanks a lot 4 the boost.
