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I am new to the group. A little bit about myself. I am living with an alcholic but of course he will not see that. Right now I have been battling with an Eating Disorder and have been doing that for a year. when I used to bring up about how I have this addiction and how he needs to get treatment for his addiction. But I guess in his eyes he does not have an addiction and that what I am doing to myself is 100% worse than just drinking a little bit. Since he moved back to his home town he has also picked up his bad habit of smoking pot. So, he does it both and then it makes it really hard for me to be around him when he is like that. I am working on 12 step program for my ED and it is going well but I am learning that I can not control him and I have to worry about me and my addiction first. It is just really hard trying to do all of this and I am now in a brand new place of residency. I used to live in Cheyenne, Wyoming and now I live in Vineland, New Jersey and I have been here for one month and it has been a hard month for adjusting. I don't have the support or the family life out here that I am used to. I came from a family that got together often and were there for each other a lot and I have a lot of aunt's and uncle's and here it is totally opposite. So, that has not made it easy for me to work through my addiciton. But if anyone has any words of advice that might help that would be great. I love being able to talk to people that can relate to me. Thank you for reading!
cm, welcome to MIP. I know how hard it is to move to a new place and have no family or friends around. New climate, food, etc. Its very difficult and I understand what that is like. But its also a chance for a fresh you. In a way you get to reinvent yourself and this can be a very special opportunity, too.
I struggled with some eating issues for the first time in my life at 44! WOW, was that ever suprising but I talked with an old friend who had struggled through that and it was very helpful. I think eating disorders can be a lot about having control over something at a time when we feel so very powerless. At least, this was the case for me. I had no control over so much, all I did have control over was what I was or was not putting into my body. I tried to see how long I could go without eating anything. How it felt to go hungry, etc. It was a very painful time but my friend talked me through it and its no longer an issue for me, thank god. I did find that I do not need to eat as much as I thought I did, though. I did find out that as an aging female, I do not need the calories a 20-30 year old woman needs. I also found out a lot about myself going through all that. I found out that I do not like having a large meal at the end of the day. I found out that I love to have lunch at 9:30 AM. I found out all sorts of things about myself that were very useful.
You are exactly where you need to be on your path. Have faith that god is guiding your every move and rest in that guidance. keep coming back here and reading and posting, its a great site and will be greatly beneficial to your recovery. Hugs, J.
Welcome, and I know how hard it can be to adjust to a new place, especially one far away from the traditional family!
You will find lots of support and compassion amongst this group of good folks. I have two daughters in active alcoholism, the youngest still at home with me (almost 20 years old).
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"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience." - Woodrow Wilson
the A who I was with smoked pot too. He also blamed me for everything. He still would if I allowed him in. I'm not anymore but its been a long hard slog to get there.
I find it tough going but its worthwhile to post on this board often.
