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This week has been one step forward, two back, but I am rebounding more quickly than earlier in my journey.
Made several errors this week in dealing with my son. He has had two awful days of discoveries/experiences with his EX which has knocked him off his sobriety once more. I, forgetting what I know to be true, was quick to jump in to rescue and then getting angry at him and at me for being stupid. I broke the basic rule of trying to reason with someone who has been drinking. It CANNOT be done and walking away is the only solution; whatever "advice" one may have to offer can wait for a better time.
I don't know what the rest of today will bring. We had a huge confrontation this morning, mainly about money. Not my favorite topic since money doesn't mean much to me at this point. To him, who has little to none, it is of extreme importance to his very survival (rent?? gasoline?? food??....and perhaps alcohol????). So we both regressed. The outcome for now is he called to apologize, I accepted, and we move on.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change...I DO know the difference.
((((((Omajoy))))))))), hey look at you and just listen to you. What a long way you have come...to err is human so don't beat yourself up about it. The apology is what matters and that both of you learned something and CHANGED something this week
Sending you my prayers and keeping you in HP's power right now, asking for a day that will go from strength to strength for you.
Love you Suzannah
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Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.
I have difficulty setting boundaries with my AHsober but really difficult boundaries with my sons. My oldest is a financial disaster. Add the new wife and cute baby. I said you call the collection agency and I will pay your phone (so at least I know if baby and mom are ok). I lose every time. Can't call because blah blah blah but go ahead and pay my phone bill. Get a clue. I wish I was where you are.
wow, look at you!! maybe a misstep but you rebounded so quick it's not even noticeable. You know how you tell a child singing, playing a piano etc who thinks everyone heard or knows the mistake they made. Not even noticed usually. Progress not perfect - you are making wonderful music in your life. Bravo! Bravo!
~ddub
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"Choices are the hinges of destiny." Pythagoras You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
Auwe Omajoy!! (Auwe can be used instead of WOW...Hawaiians do it all the time!!)
It would be interesting for you to look at your growth by going back and reading your "newbie" posts. Some of the stuff is the same and there are lots of positive differences. Keep trusting your HP and practice what you have learned and are learning. The more of him your turn over to your HP the less of him you will have to enable cause he will become responsible to himself and for himself.
I am so proud to have been able to see you grow from the beginning, Oma. You are an inspiration.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
