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Please private message me and tell me about your island and your surroundings. I promised myself years ago I would someday live in Hawaii, and the time has come to throw caution to the wind, sell out here, and make my dream come true. I intend to come with a couple suitcases, my kitties and my dog. I have already checked in to the 5 or less days option for my pets "incarceration." I intend to grab a condo and spend the rest of my life in paradise.
I know I could go to the Chamber of Commerce, but words from those who experience it are worth far more than a couple of pamphlets.
Appreciate your taking the time,
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I am sitting here right now contemplating finally and once and for all moving out of my situation. It is clear to both husband and I that "we" are just not meant to be. We have used up all the love we once had on each other. Nothing left to say. I have been having panic attacks for 2 days now, even took time off work for it. Just having a really hard time facing reality, I guess. Your idea sounds wonderful. Here I am scared to death to move out on my own a few miles up the road. And I don't know why, I've lived by myself before....no problem. I have a job, friends, etc. I guess it is just the idea of giving up the fantasy that husband and I had a normal, loving, marriage. Not. Way to go Diva!
I am very proud of you for being strong enough to begin your inquiries. You should be very proud of yourself too.
I don't live in Hawaii, so I can't give you any advise about it. I can share with you that I have always wanted to live in Texas. I divorced my ah in 2006 and I spent the next year investigating the State of Texas. I finally decided that I wanted to live in Austin. In July 2007 I began making visits to Austin. In October I moved here permanently. I didn't know anyone when I moved here. I didn't have a job. But, it is what I wanted to do, and I did it, and I don't regret it for a moment.
I hope, that if you do choose to move to Hawaii, that you will meet with the same happiness.
I'll PM you and don't throw caution to the wind yet. Find out as much as you can about where you are going and what you can expect and what they can expect from you. Yes we do bring our own baggage with us and often times it's not appreciated as I found out on a earlier 3 month mosey to another tropical paradise in the Pacific. After 3 months they had had enough and wanted me and my building partner off the island baggage and all. A later 4th step revealed that they were justified and I need to make an apology to them...the whole island and their governing body and law enforcement people. "....except when to do so would injure them or others." I am almost certain that there would be injury and new people who were not originally hurt would now be hurt if I did the apology without serious consideration.
I've already done the steps on this one except the apology and an amends. Have offered it up to my HP for guidance and timing and am looking into options as I am sure my HP is also.
O, I would be willing to carry your suitcases...(((((((((((Diva)))))))))))))) and I am good at walking and grooming pouches.
Expert at travelling light, as long as I could bring my kite with me, remembering Jerry's wonderful kite flying picnic Sunday. I am very quite and I don't take up a lot of room, and I am house trained. You would not know I was there, unless you wanted me to make you afternoon tea!
Are my credentials good enough to consider me, do you think?
Just to see the Honu and to walk on that silver sand and swim in the crystal azure blue sea would be my just rewards. O paradise indeed.
I hope all goes well, and you find that paradise you are searching for. Suzannah
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Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.
Make sure your place is big enough for a huge condo warming party! I have you mention this move for the past several years. I think if you really want to do it, then do it. Hubby and I have often dreamed of buying an RV and moving around the country. Maybe when the gas prices go down (will be alive in the year 2310?) Now perhaps you might want to buy the condo as a vacation home and try it out for a few months at a time. I know how much you love your place there. I think it is great that you have the ability to pack up and move, but don't forget things will follow you (either physically or emotionally). Perhaps a bit of distance and perspective will help make your decision easier. I always get into trouble when I make spontanious decisions. Whatever you decide we're behind you 100%. Much love and blessings to you and your family. Much love to the dogs and cats. Aloha!
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Diva, I PMed you. Hawaii had truly been the most healing place I have ever experienced on so many levels. I cannot believe how lucky I have been to live here for three years. It has not been easy. It is not paradise in the way you may think. Its very complicated here, in many respects. Its not like you may think it is. It is, though, incredibly gentle and receptive and healthy here. I love it and am sad I need to go but hope to return sooner as opposed to later. Also, the best al-anon groups on the entire planet exist in Hawaii, I swear. Hugs and love and aloha, J.
I am assuming you are going off on your adventure to a new life with you and the animals,and that is it. If I am wrong,forgive me.
I wanted to say, I know there must be some deep feelings of pain inside you.Just wanted to tell you I have come to respect you,and love you as an alanon sister so very much.
Praying you are ok and have loved ones to support you right now.Wish I were close so I could come help sell your stuff,and pack.
Will you ship lots of your stuff? I mean to leave everything is so many losses.
Want to send you a long hug,I pray you will heal and find many wonders on the island you choose.
Do you have a blog Diva? I sure would love to see pictures of what you discover. Hear how you are doing.
Hey just smelling the flowers would be so neat. Sadly my calling is Africa. Sad because it is not a safe place. I want so much to go to this one orphanage and just be a mom. So so many kids have no family.
Anyway wanted to make sure you are ok as far as your heart.love,debilyn in muddy,cold, wet,but green Oregon
I want to thank each of you who have responded here for your kind words, and all of those who have sent private messages with so much information for me to consider and digest.
I plan to buy a two-way ticket so that I may visit each of the islands and make an informed choice. One day I am leaning toward the big island, the next, Maui, and the next, Kauai. There is so much to consider. Where are the most beautiful beaches? Where is it warm all the time? City or country? Windward or leeward?
I am not going there as the "ugly American" to buy up their land and live a wealthy, idle, and aimless life. My plan is, and has always been, to live meagerly while enjoying the paradise that Hawaii is. I may just rent a little place for myself and the animals, and own no shoes. Toes are made for having sand between. A car? I will probably ship one of mine, but hopefully find little use for it, except perhaps to explore what is not within my walking distance. I will take two suitcases; one will hold the clothing and toiletries, and the other will hold the family photos. There is nothing...not one other possession...important enough to put on a ship.
This has been a dream of mine all of my life. The time has come to live it.
Thanks to some of you, I am getting a few words of the Hawaiian language, and I am beginning to understand what living in Hawaii is all about.
Dare I say "Aloha?" Maybe I had best save that for another time.
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I have you mention this move for the past several years. I think if you really want to do it, then do it. Hubby and I have often dreamed of buying an RV and moving around the country. Maybe when the gas prices go down (will be alive in the year 2310?) 
Now perhaps you might want to buy the condo as a vacation home and try it out for a few months at a time. I know how much you love your place there. I think it is great that you have the ability to pack up and move, but don't forget things will follow you (either physically or emotionally). Perhaps a bit of distance and perspective will help make your decision easier. I always get into trouble when I make spontanious decisions. Whatever you decide we're behind you 100%. Much love and blessings to you and your family. Much love to the dogs and cats. Aloha!
