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For the third day in a row I was feeling down obsessing over A and how his issues make me feel. (back in that little box running around like a little mouse that can't get out).
 
Anyway then my 23 year old daughter calls and says she found the perfect wedding dress and "doesn't know what happened" but she just wrote a $1200 check for down payment. She really sounded bewildered as to how this came about! Seriously. So after a little drama she determines that all she has to do is call the dress shop and explain that she got excited and overcommitted herself and make a more reasonable payment arrangement. I'm sure she is not the first young bride to be to make these types of mistakes. She wasn't asking for the $1200 she was just telling me what happened. She is amazingly wonderful, kinda flighty, and a little self absorbed and she sometimes gets emotional (can't imagine where she gets it).

So anyway this little episode blessed my day because it makes me realize there are other wonderful people in my life that love me very much besides my BF/ A and I can enjoy the closeness I have with them or I can sit around so obsessed about what I don't have wth BF/ A that I miss out on great opportunties to love and be loved by others in my life.

May seem like an obvious statement to some but for me it's a long distance from knowing something with my head and feeling it in my heart! Today is a good day! 
My life is a good life! I am blessed! 
 



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I am incredibly grateful to be free of obsessing about the ex A. I left him this time last year and was sick with worry for months about him.  Then I reconnected and completely enabled him for months. He was homeless, ill and totally passive about everything apart from demanding from me.  In September I threw in my lot and took my dog and eventually his dog and separted for good. There is a process to this.

One year later I don't obsess about him or find his actions reflect on me in any way.

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