binge drinking = alcoholic??? - Al-Anon Family Group

thaiexpat · Member

binge drinking = alcoholic???

serendipity · ~*Service Worker*~

If you have a problem with someone else's drinking then you are in the right place. Doesn't matter how often she drinks, what she drinks, this program is about how you feel and what you can do to change you. It's about other things too but for now, yes, you are in the right place. I would suggest finding a f2f meeting and there are online meeting here also that are great. Keep comming, keep posting!

thaiexpat · Member

It's good to know that I'm in the right place. As to meetings, that is not too easy, as I live in a remote area of Thailand and I'm not much aof a meeting kind of guy, so I will have to take advantage of on line resources for alanon. Thank Buddah for the internet...it alows you to communicate in real time anonymously. I'm kinda busy to elaborate on my situation more, but will get back with my sad story asap.
Thanks for the welcome and support!!

ddub · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome to MIP

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lin0606 · ~*Service Worker*~

Yeah, the answer to your first question gives a good idea of what goes on in alanon. Rather than having an answer to "binge drinker = alcoholic", we just say "problem with someone's drinking = member of alanon". In other words, it's not about them, it's about you.

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

there has been a show here on VH1 called Celebrity Rehab. In that show, Dr. Drew (who is a addiction specialist) stipulated that alcoholism and addiction were about the consequences not the volume of drinking. If you keep drinking despite the consequences its probably there is an addiction.

Personally I never had any luck laying down any rules with an addict, unless they want to get sober they don't. There are numerous books, articles and strategies on how you manage your own feelings around an alcoholic, being in al anon is one of them. There is the three C's that many of us look at which also reinforce that no one absolutely no one can control an addict. They absolutely have to want recovery and not everyone does

Maresie.

Tracy · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi and welcome my partner is a bing drinker he can go for weeks without a drink however when he does drink he carnt stop. Plus he would never refuse a drink. Most of the time there are negative consequences to his drinking such as losing a job, relationships, bad behaviour etc. So I would say he is a alcoholic because he doesnt like the impact it has on his life but he does not stop. This illness is also progressive so it has to start somewhere. I have been coming to meetings for 6 months and they are a god send being able to talk to people who understand you. If you carn't attend a meeting use this site. the main thing I have learn't is I carn't change anyone but me. I am seperated from my partner at the moment to give me time to evaluate my situation. Anyway good luck hope this has helped a bit. smile

Aloha · ~*Service Worker*~

Just wanted to say "welcome". You're in the right place.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha thaiexpat!!

From my experience with my very own alcoholic wife...your's qualifies and then that is not what we are concerned about. It is how I was reacting to the disease that "qualified" me to be a member of the Al-Anon Family Groups Worldwide. I have heard that there are not alot of Al-Anon Family Group meetings where you are at. Have you checked?

Keep coming back. (((((hugs))))) smile

carolinagirl · ~*Service Worker*~

My husband was a binge drinker. I thought that was the worst because just when you think everything is ok your hopes are dashed again. I wouldn't be surprised if "laying down the law" doesn't work too well. That never worked for me. I finally moved out almost 2 years ago and just filed for divorce a few weeks ago. It gets progressively worse in my experience.

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