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My life is constantly changing. Long story husb addicted in and out of rehabs now told he cant come home. Drove him to rescue mission and 6 days out now calls and says hes not being fed "like a concentration camp" wanted me to pick him up. I know he has reached bottom, still love him (25 years 5/08) am afraid that he'll leave and be on streets. I have tried so hard. Need help.
You are in the right place. We do not give advice here. We share our experience, strength and hope for you to learn from and hopefully be encouraged that things can get better. I don't know what you should do about your AH. I would recomend that you read as much as you can here. Keep coming back and tell us about yourself. There are some wonderful people on this board. Some of our stories are different from yours, some are very similar.
Also, find a face2face meeting in your area if you can. They are an important part of really getting the most out of this program.
Again welcome!
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
I have a dear friend who had a son who used to call like this from the street/shelter, saying he was not being fed, etc. She loved him so much but refused to enable. She would pick him up and drop him off at another soup kitchen/shelter. He would beg for her to buy him a meal and she refused. That young man is now fully employed, completed 2 years of treatment and has been clean and sober for 4 years and is still going strong. This is the only ESH I have to offer, good luck my friend. J.
I will be praying for you. With God (whom I call my hp) everything is possible!!! if God is for us who is against us? this is a great program,and you can learn soo much here. When I first came into program I was taught the 3 C's. You didn't cause it,You can't control it, or cure it.Once I took the focus off of them and put it on myself, I got better. Little by little I came to be. Give us a chance, and try us out for 6months,and if you don't like us, we will refund you your misery ;)
There is a rainbow on the other side,you just have to go through some storms first!!!
Ash~
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I have been married 34 years. Love him to death. He's a sober dry drunk. I have to turn him over to his HP and turn to my HP. I also pile Alanon materials, tools, meetings on me.
I like Nancy have also been married for 34 years. My AH is still drinking, even more than ever now that he is retired. Before I found Al-Anon, I was at a point where my life with him seemed hopeless. AlAnon has given me the tools to cope with my life. I know that until he comes to the place where he realizes he is powerless over alcohol, he will not be able to quit on his own. He needs to turn his life over to a higher power the way I have.
I have become full of hope. I enjoy spending time with my AH. I could not have said that 6 months ago. Before AlAnon, I was so angry and bitter about his constant drinking I tried to control him, and manipulate him into stopping his drinking. AlAnon has taught me that I first needed to change me, and the way I interact with him when he's been drinking.
I will be praying for you and your situation. Keep comng back. We are here for you.
Love and Blessings,
Claudia
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