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So now my niece is a 21 year old orphan! :( My MIL behaved very inappropriately to her and she had no adult support at all, sux to be 21 and the only adult in a room of much older people. But I digress, I was upset about something she had said to her and she said no, it's ok, when I had to work on that crew that picked up body parts from a plane that crashed on our base I learned that people say completely outrageous things sometimes because everyone deals with that pain/stress in a different way. I still felt that was no excuse for behaving like an "xxxx" to her but after I hung up I thought. She's so far ahead of most people already. I was so proud of her at that moment and thought that was the most brilliant thing I had heard in a long long time. For her to be so kind (she really doesn't like my MIL in the first place) in such a dark hour I found it to be so inspirational. At that moment I knew, she's going to be ok!
Wow, the wisdom of young people. I wonder if I was that wise when I was younger and just got jaded and self-centered as I aged. I am so very sorry for your loss. Obviously, your niece has the ability to deal and continue living. Even so, it is hard to lose both parents no matter how old you are. The feeling of being all alone in this world can be overwhelming.Prayers comming for you and your family.
Good thoughts are with you. I found out alot about people when my close friend lost her child. People say the most inappropriate things and have so many ways of dealing with tragedy.
So sorry for your loss. Just remember, she will need you later, seems when we suffer the loss of a loved one people are there in the beginning but the thing I found is we need support later. Just be there for her with a warm hug and an open ear.
Prayers winging their way across the ocean to you and all those who will have been affected by this death. Take care CG, one day at a time, your niece will need you, and all you need to do is be there for her.
((((((here are some hugs to share around))))))))))
Suzannah
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Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.
My deepest sympathies to you and your family on your loss. Losing a parent at any age is hard. But you being the wonderful person you are, will be able to see your niece through with grace and courage. I will say extra prayers for you and your family tonight. Much love and blessings to you all.
Karilynn
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
