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norwood


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I found the secret (the one that works for me) to letting go of resentments.  It is in truly owning my choices.  When I have resented others it always came with a "but", or "I was forced to......", or "they did.......", etc.  When I own my choices, there are no "buts", no "forcing", and no "they".  It is me working my program as an inside job.  I can leave the heavy bags of resentments on the curb for my HP to clean up, or for anyone who wants them.  And we all know there are plenty who want them :(  one of the many really cool things I have learned recently is that i own my choices.  No more keeping track of who did me dirt and why I reacted.  Even if someone were to hold a gun to my head, I still have the choice, and I own it.  What I don't own are resentments as having resentments is also a choice and I choose no to that.

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((((((Paul)))))))))),

You so rock! That was great. What a thought I can choose to have resentments or not. Your right. (and yes it hurt a lot to say thatbiggrin).  Choices are ours and we do need to own them.

I am so blessed to have you as my Sunday partner and as my friend.

Yours in recovery,
Mandy

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Norwood,

That is so great!  I agree with you now that I think this through and so glad you posted this.   thanks, ddub

-- Edited by ddub at 00:10, 2008-04-05

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(((((Norwood)))))

Choose not to have resentments. What freedom there is in this. No extra burdens to carry along. Just put them down in front of HP and trust him to handle them.

Thank you for sharing this. While I certainly am not there yet, this post may help me to head in the right direction. Never thought of it as having choices before.

Take Care,

Claudia

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