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I've received a new peace this week. Have to assume it has something to do with spending HOURS begging for mercy and strength and guidance from HP. And working hard at following the al-anon program. And venting to all of you with my endless "stuff". But for the past few days, I've gotten this new outlook. I've gained a new perspective on my situation. I'm BEGINNING to see things the way they REALLY are. I haven't OBSESSED on the A this week. In fact, I feel a "lightness" about me. Like HP's way of saying, "See how good it feels, when you let ME worry about him?" Wow.....
I don't want to read too much into this - I'm really just enjoying these days of serenity. I don't know where the obsession went. But I DON'T miss it. This is all so new to me.
I just wanted to report that there is HOPE!!!! If I can get a day's serenity and freedom from obsessing..........then ANYONE can. This program WORKS if you work it.
Just had to share it with all of you. You've all been so good to me.
Good for you. You deserve that consequence for the choices and work that you have been doing. I'm glad you put it out there for us cause that is what sharing Hope is. Thanks for that share.
It works cause your working it and now you just know that your HP is soooo real.
My sponsor always tells me on good days like that when I have peace, tuck that away to remember on the days that aren't so good and I'm struggling! It's been good advice for me, and keeps me hanging in there through the tough times!
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"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience." - Woodrow Wilson
Way to go R3. You sound like you are doing really well with your program. Gives the rest of us that Hope we are so longing for.
Hearing that others are achieving serenity makes the daily struggle a little easier, and urges us on to drop those burdens at the feet of our own HP-- where they belong.
Thanks for sharing,
Claudia
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"See how good it feels when you let me worry about him?" I really really like that!!! Thanks for making my morning, R3- you had it in you all along, missy. One day at a time, you are a real inspiration for me and thanks for your post! Hugs, J.
I aged a lot over the last year because the A totally took a downhill turn. That had a profound affect on me. I wasn't doing too well before then but when he took the downward turn it nearly did me in.
I am so glad that you are finding some peace. Giving up obsessing is indeed huge.
Sounds a lot like successful detachment. I am going through that right now and it does feel good to "feel good" every now and then in these circumstances. I decided a few months ago that I had to stop obsessing and think of myself and my kids. My defining moment for detaching was when I finally realized that there was NOTHING I could do to change his behavior. Nothing I said, nothing I could do, nothing I could try, nothing I had any control over was going to do any good. I was completely powerless in the struggle. It is sad but something I have to do. It is damn hard but having some sort of peace and serinity like you mentioned is so healthy!!
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Sometimes it's not about making it through the storm, it's about learning how to dance in the rain.
