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I haven't posted in nearly two weeks. Just returned from my mom's funeral and helping dad to re-group. Her passing was a blessing as she was so terribly ill with end-stage heart failure and at age 88, had had a wonderful life up until last three years. I was able to be with her for a couple days prior to her death and was with her at her passing....quite an awesome experience and new to me. My son was with me and was a pillar of strength to me.
Tomorrow my spouse has his first surgery for kidney stones and in two weeks, the second one. Our plate is full! But we cope and we handle because it is all one can do. I just hope our messy family situation with son, his EX, and the grandchild can remain calm and stable during the coming weeks. I can only cope with so much at a time. Just wanted to tell y'all where I had been.
I am very sorry for your loss of your mom. I am very happy that you got to be with her before she passed and that your son was by you side at that time.
I pray that things stay calm and that your husband's surgeries are uneventful.
Sad to hear of the passing of your mom. Glad to hear that she was with you and I give thanks for her wonderful life. Be kind to yourself. Remember that alanon slogan about checks out "...does it matter" and "...is it worth it" before you allow anyone or anything to upset that peace in your heart right now.
You don't need to waste strength and energy, especially with all that you are facing right now.
Keeping you in my prayers too. Lean on your HP and give thanks for the strength and support that you receive from your son especially at this time, and all your family here too.
One day at a time, reserve your strength, retain your peace, hold on to what really matters at this time.
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"The highest form of wisdom is kindness." The Talmund
Welcome back. I've been wondering about you. I'm glad you got to be with your Mother before and during her passing. You're right, it is an awesome experience.
Well wishes to your husband during his surgery. You make sure to get some rest :) Especially at this time, I do hope...If there is any conflict or expectations from x-DIL (or son too for that matter), "just say NO." Your hubby is more important then any drama she attempts to create. I was glad to see your son was there for you during a most difficult time. That will definately be a good memory to draw from.
Christy
-- Edited by Christy at 16:09, 2008-03-26
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
Oma - Sorry to hear about your mom. I was with my mom also when she passed away, and I agree that it is an incredibly moving experience. The most intimate of all experiences. I know I felt blessed to be there with my mom when she passed. Sounds like you're in an okay place through all of this.
Sending you prayers for your husband as he awaits his surgeries.
