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Well, I'm finally getting off the pot! I have an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow. Funny to think that I have been away from him for 19 months and it still makes me a little nervous to think about going in there! I was so excited that he was back in jail so I could get this done and the thought crossed my mind, he could get out after a month and still show up to fight this. I could just wait and see what happens, see if he gets prison time and is going to be gone for sure for a long time. That is the same trap that got me last time. He got out and I worried for months about my son being taken - even if it is an unrealistic worry it's still there. It's time for me to just do it, no matter what the cost, no matter how long it takes or if he does get out and show up.
So wish me luck and pray that this guy will be reasonable and give me a great deal! That everything will go smoothly and this will all be done with a quickness!
Good for you! Just make sure he is a good lawyer. In my case, I went with cheap which = idiot. Literally. I didn't even get the papers till what, last Tuesday? And the judge had signed EVERYTHING back in Sept. Oh man! I see how lawyers get a bad name. But I am guessing this one has some major issues he is working thru....or he just didn't like me.....
Anyway, Get 'er done, girl (is that how you spell it?). Just imagine how free you will feel. And once this tie is untied, the universe will bring to you the partner you are supposed to have. HP is awsome like that!
I am wishing you luck for whatever you wish for your future, I am sure things will go the way you need them to.
Time is a great healer, do what you need to do to save your family, children are the greatest gift we can be given on this earth. God's angels I call them :).
I will keep you in my prayers, I know what you are about to do is not easy, best of luck to you.
Sometimes you've just got to kick yourself a little harder to get going. Remember you are in control of your feelings, he's not. You've come too far to let him. Fingers, toes and tail (Pipers's, not mine) crossed that everything will go well. You go girl! Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
CG.. Stay strong..I just filed back in Feb and I thought it would be alot harder on me thn it was. I just went in and told me lawyer what I wanted, and she wrote it all up. My ex A got the papers and said he knew he treated me badly, so he wouldnt contest the divorce. Oh , If they contest the divorce, they have to have a lawyer too.And If he doesnt have a job ,, well he cant afford a lawyer.I even asked for supervised visitation.And mine agreed. Reluctantly,but given his alcohol/suicide attempt history, he didnt really have a choice. Good luck to you , and lots of hugs... Midget
