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I saw it Friday, it ws on my dresser with some other jewlery. And it was after I recieved my papers about child support and what day I have to go to court for that and the thought crossed my mind.."Better hide my jewlery incase he decides to give his GF a diamond tennis bracelet for Easter...." and then I left it right where it was because I thought (yet again) that I was being silly and I wanted to wear it today. And today, it was not there. Infact, I noticed last night, after being gone all day that it was not in the spot I had seen it. But my room is a mess and maybe, just maybe, it became untangled from the other jewlery and fell......
I had my doors locked but anyone can get in thru the basement. And for nothing else (again) to be taken. I have other nice rings and necklaces but just the diamond bracelet is missing.....kinda strange, right?
I am LIVID at this moment. WHAT IS WITH THESE PEOPLE??????? WHY THE HELL DO THEY NOT JUST LEAVE ME ALONE??????
The diamond ring that he stole from me this summer was my mother's and she wouldn't do a damn thing about it. Yes, he took it from MY house but if she would have pursued it or at least supported MY pursuing it so that I didn't look like the psyco ex making up stories. But no, it was all TOO much for her.
And here I am again. I can't afford a security system. I can't even afford a dead bolt. I kid you not when I say, I wear diamonds but I have zero in actual cash. And I have tried to sell them but they are sentimental value and there is no way I can give up an antique diamond that has been in my family for generations for a tenth of what it's worth.
I am going to clean my room tomarrow morning and then call the police. It's a small town, I will probably sound like an idiot as he is all hot stuff right now, but I am sick and tired of him thinking he can steal from me(and our kids). It occured to me recently that his ex lived close to us many years ago and her place was broken into like 3 times in a row and they stole the DVD player, the T.V. and some other stuff. I bet it was our ex. I know how his sick mind works. I saw the way he was raised (to HATE those who had more than him financially) His sister was constantly stealing from the neighbors (diamond earrings, pearl necklaces) I swear, he is sicker now, "sober" than he was when he was using. Even as a crack head he never stole from me my THINGS. He would over draw the checking account and all but he would sell his body or "rent" the car for crack. Now that he is "sober" he can't do either of those things to fit into "high society" so he is stealing from ME!!!!?????
You may not be able to afford a security system, but you can DEFINITELY afford a safe deposit box at the bank and they are only about 30 or 40 bux a year. If you don't happen to find your bracelet (I'm really hoping it's just lying around somewhere) then that might be the best thing for you. Your stuff would be safe then. BTW my middle child steals my jewelry from me all the time so you might want to check the kids and make sure that someone wasn't "borrowing" or playing dress up or something...
You know if you shoot them inside your house it's self defense....
I know it is all so upsetting and so unnecessary and so makes you think you are going mad.
Try, try and try again not to let it get to you.
It is after all nothing that you can take with you, however please believe me, and this is after years and years of hard working on myself, this sort of thing really is not worth the negativity that your soul and mind and body goes through.
I am hoping that it is simply misplaced. So easy when you have lots to do, children to sort out and you get your room in a mess.
I am so hoping that it turns up, however, if it does not turn up...truly, and I told you before what happened to my jewellry...it is not worth getting yourself all screwed up about.
Praying that it will all turn out to be a false alarm and that you can find some peace. Check everyone to see if they have seem it, and check your laundry basket and when you have calmed yourself, slowly tidy up your room and see if it turns up, otherwise file it as stolen and see if your insurance covers it and then - remember to make sure NOTHING is left OUT in the future.
Really, I know this might sound impossible, but really it is NOT worth letting yourself lose serenity for.
Praying for it's safe return or find.
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After what you have been thru and what you just said, I wonder what made you leave it out in the first place?
NOT your fault. Sadly the good have to put the bars up.
Lots of options. I would not do the bank thing becuz i want to wear things when I want to.
You can saw a rectangle in the floor in a convenient place.Just peel back the carpet.Then either make a box there, or just get a locking metal container, put chain on it and hook it under there so if you pull it up, it won't come all the way out. Raise the floor you cut out a teeny bit so you can lift it open.
Do you live in a house? Find somewhere outside to put it. Or make somewhere.
My friend keeps hers in a safe place in her van.
Make or buy something and hook it under your kitchen table, or remove a corner from the back of your couch, put them in there in something. put tiny pieces of velcro on the part you took off to hold it shut.
Does not have to cost you a dime.
Try hiding or chaining down tools....sigh. I sure kept my bolt cutters...whatever I could hide.
Sick Sick Sick. What makes us question? They are sick.
If you want your ring back, have her charged with theft. Or take her to small claims.It is YOURS, What do you care what people think? they are not your friends if they make judgements about you!
I think I get madder at this situation than you do! lol
Either get your stuff back, or let it go.
I am about to take my aunt to court to get my gmas wedding rings promised to ME.
sad.hugs hon,hope you find your bracelet. Don't feel bad if you do.We are all under stress.
I agree, I don't understand why you can't file the police report for the ring? Is it an issue of proof? I'm sure there's a picture somewhere of your grandma wearing it! I am missing so much jewelry it isn't even funny! I'll think back about some gift he gave me and think hmmm wonder what ever happened to that? Of course I KNOW what happened to it, it went into his veins or down his throat... I never really had anything that was worth that much though and I do still have my wedding ring and have been pondering lately what to do with that. Still, that's no excuse! I'd go after them full force and there's nothing wrong with being seen as the vengeful ex, nobody knows what you have been through, maybe it wouldn't hurt if they knew some of it.
I lose stuff all the time when I am stressed. I think it does no good to seep into resentment. I am resolved not to let the a into my life again on any level. It took a long time for me to get there. I forgive myself for not getting there sooner.
I hope you find it. I am always looking for stuff myself. I try to put certain things away in the same spot all the time.
I have done Debilyns idea of making a small secure hiding place for stuff. It does work, but only if the kids don't tell him where it is. I would probably install something in the bathroom, way back out of sight under the counter. That way you wouldn't even have to tell the kids it was there and could be discreet about getting things in and out of it. Sometimes we just have to be realistic about what and who we are dealing with. It is not paranoid to take reasonable steps to protect yourself and your property.
Good luck, I hope you find it behind the dresser.
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
