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So kids are either sleepy, cranky or gone to the store and A is not talking much either today. Trying hard to hold on to that thought: just because everyone else is grumpy doesn't mean I have to let them drag me down too.
I've been busy boiling eggs, making salads, folding clean clothes and just staying busy but then I thought I should have some fun. No one else is doing any work around here. Didn't know what to do as just looking forward to being with family but wait, they are all grumpy.
I guess this works to come and write about it to my MIP family - takes away the edge of frustration or anger. Guess I'll go sit in a bubble bath or go to a book store - sure do like laughing and wishing I was sharing my day with family members here though. It'll probably get better...... there's always hope and we will be decorating eggs tonight. I can enjoy that whether I'm with laughing or crabby folks. Hope all is well in your corner of the world.
hop hop hoppy happy hugs, ddub
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"Choices are the hinges of destiny." Pythagoras You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
When that kind of thing used to go on here I made a game of it in my head. I told my self I was going to "hold on to happy". The other members of my family would seem to try hard to change it but I held my happy. Many times it leaked in to them and their moods changed too. It's like when I am around a friend that is grumpy or complaining. I find my own mood being drug down a bit. If I'm around someone that is upbeat and laughing I can't help but follow suit.
Hang in and hold on, Christy
-- Edited by Christy at 15:12, 2008-03-22
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
ddub - I know what that's like. Sometimes I want to be in a happy festive mood and find that I'm all alone at my party. Ah well....we know we can't change them....so you have the right idea of doing something fun for yourself.
Holidays were absolutely terrible for me with the A. He always had to spend the whole holiday with his mother no matter what I wanted. I dripped resentment, frustration and venon all those weekends. What a shame I did not have a program to turn to. I let him be the center of my life and rob me of so much
ddub, work on your eggs and doing household tasks that you enjoy (see personally, I love doing laundry but that is just ME). Maybe go to a matinee or out for a little shopping. The bookstore is a great idea. Sometimes people (including kids) just need to be quiet and alone grumps. Let them be what they need to be- you can go off and have a little fun and by the time you get home, who knows, the whole atmosphere may have shifted. You could even just take a drive or something. Call an al-anon friend or head to a meeting perhaps? Hugs, J.
Well, I was on my own this Easter and I thought I would find it really hard work...but I did not at all. I thought about all those wonderful things that Easter means. It is my absolute favourite feast holiday and so I decided that I would be enjoying it and you know what I really did.
And when I hopped in here and read about you hopping around being happy inside of you, even though you were surrounded by grumps, I determined to wave to you and send you some party spirit too to share with me as I hop around too.
((((((((((((((( :flower: and all manner of things nice just for you.))))))))))))))))
all wrapped up in hugs, from me to you.
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"The highest form of wisdom is kindness." The Talmund
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and all manner of things nice just for you.))))))))))))))))