The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
hi...........my name is kim and and I'm so scared. My AH has been one for about 3 years. He just went to detox today in Calgary....and then moves on to Edmonton rehab.the reason is because my brother told him that this is it. I was sick and of what was happing in our life. He ttok control and said you either kill your self slowly which the kids do want to see. But I am so happy being free if him, no worrying....no nothing.........free.I am getting my self better through out this sit.I don't wan't him back if this doesn't help i Have been reading the post for about a month and they are great in helping me in every way. It"s so the same.....................kim what him to stick to being sober......................can it happen. I feel as if i am ruined
Try to use his time in rehab as a break - a chance to be out of the chaos for a bit, and get a little peace. Who knows if this will work for him - even if it does, sobriety is no walk in the park. It's not as if him sobering up would solve all of your problems, so you can stop waiting for it to happen, and start working on solving your problems yourself.
Therefore, take the focus off of him, and put it on yourself - what do you need in order to get some peace and serenity in your life? Whatever it is, try to work towards it.
We're happy to see you here - I'm in Alberta too, by the way.
This group is a great place to start. Focus on you that's all I would say. Don't get all caught up in what "he" is doing. Easier said than done I know.