The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I am a few short weeks away from celebrating one year from moving out from the A. In theory at least it was September I made a final break with him because that was when I managed to acquire my dog and in October I managed to acquire the other dog. Nevertheless April was and is a crucial month for me. I had no idea what was in store for me when I left the A. I was penniless, had no money to speak of, $120 a week unemployment and lost most of my belongings in the process. I used to Yes but anyone who spoke about moving but in time I did move. I'm glad I did. Not that I think he is/was is the sole problem in my life. I'm just glad that I was able to move from paralysis to action.
For the 3 long years before then I was on this Board really dying with grief, anger, resentment and totally paralyzed to do much but become aware.
I'm trying to set some goals for myself that will acknowledge April 17th and the dates thereafter including September 1st when I finally got my dog and began to not feel like I needed to save the A from his chronic path of chaos/self destruction anymore.
These days my focus is off him ( I have not had any real contact since Thanksgiving beyond a few phone calls lasting barely a few seconds each) and on "me" and that's where it needs to be for quite a while.
wow, congrats Maresie. You have said so many things on this board that I could relate to. I am so glad you remain here and that you keep coming back. I know how incredibly hard its been for you on so many different fronts but you are SCRAPPY! and you have made it through. I, for one, am grateful for what you write here. You are a good example of you taking care of you. Hugs, J.
I absolutely know how hard this past year has been for you. I've only been here since November, but I have seen you grow and change even since then. You've had a rough go of it, but you keep standing back up and moving forward. I wish I had a lot more of that. Thanks for being here, Maresie, and for always giving me hope that I will get through things.
congrats on your upcoming anniversary Maresie. You've made a lot of progress that i can see the short time i been following your posts on teh board. Be proud of you!
