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Wow, you guys really knew what you were talking about!
Ever since I started detaching, in earnest, last August, my life has changed sososo much!
Ever since I walked out the door when my AH was throwing a tantrum, calling me names, acting crazy.....my life has done a complete turn around.
I no longer walk the floor and cry....I don't engage in arguments, but I do voice my opinion (sometimes a little loudly). I don't worry and beg and plead. I just do my own thing. If he wants to join me, fine. If not, well that is OK too. Never thought I could get this way, but I did.
Hubby is even joining me in going to a Keith Urban concert in KY, in April. We are staying in a hotel, since it is a couple of hours drive. I already saw Keith once, in November, and can't wait to go again! If he is acting like a jerk (hubby, not Keith!) when I am ready to leave, I'm going anyway.
I signed up for Mypace, and have lots of friends there, too.
I still go out dancing once in a while, haven't been for a few weeks. Hubby has been staying home lots more, and has been more physically attentive.
My grandbaby (almost 4 months old already) is able to come to my home, and be loved and played with. My husband adores her. Thye relationship between he and my daughter and son in law may be beginning to heal. Finally. The look on my granddaughter's face when she sees her grandpa is so precious. She has no judgements about him, she knows nothing bad. So, she just smiles that big toothless grin when he holds her. He is kind and sweet and gentle to her. I told him no drinking around her, if he does, I'm taking her back home. It's working for now, I haven't had to take her home yet!
I have found it very difficult to give up arguing and being obsessive around the A. For me because of the utter chaos in his life I had to stop all contact.
Beck, good to hear from you! You sound really great! It works if you work it!!! You were pretty darn miserable when I first read your posts and you sound much much better- I am really pleased and happy for you and your family. Its inspiring and brings hope to many of us here- hugs, J.
