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I've had a pretty good day today. Went to a meeting in a different place this morning and it was a very good one. It wound up being about detachment. I'm going to read up on that and continue practicing like I have today. I haven't called him, I haven't emailed him. I've thought about him, yes, but I haven't acted on any of the "urges" that I've had to call him or go by the meeting hall and see if he was there. I checked our PO Box today and left his mail in there. I emailed him last night to see if he needed a wake up call today, got no repsonse. So, no call. It's almost 7 p.m. and I haven't talked to him all day. I rather proud of myself for that. The new job is closer to my grasp. And my relationship with my HP is getting stronger. I was away from my mother's house and the noise today for a couple of hours and it was absolutely blissful. I didn't even have the radio on in the car.
One of the things I've started doing today was whenever I thought about calling him or started to miss him more than usual, I picked up a book. Well, except in the car, then I started talking to my HP and asking for help. I then noticed how absolutely beautiful it was outside. Crisp blue sky, adorable small puffy clouds, and OODLES of sunshine!!!
I'm now going to eat dinner, reflect on the services I just came home from, watch some television, and visit the world of Harry Potter. I hope everyone has a pleasant evening.
That's how it works when you work it and it will only get bigger and better. Keep going for it...reaching out and asking for help and passing on what you freely get freely.
It's good to watch you grow. It brings back very fond memories.
(watchout for them death eaters....almost got Harry P a couple of time!!)
Well done! It can be hard to break old habits, but it can be done. Practice, practice, practice! Keep up the great work. Love and blessings to you and your family. Happy reading. I am rereading the last one. Boy do I wish I hand a wand to help me with the laundry!
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Good for you. Practice makes perfect. I always remind myself. Detachment is something I need to do before I really "need" to do it. I had to really work a program not to call the A for a long long time. Now I have no urges to. I have no urge to even learn how he is doing.
This is a great post J. Its a perfectly solid example of what to do in those "moments" and its great to read about. I was recently feeling poorly and did some of what you describe. I am so thankful for this program for giving me some skills and tools to do these simple things so I feel so much better. Hugs, J.
Jennifer
It can be hard to break old habits, but it can be done. Practice, practice, practice! Keep up the great work. 