The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have been to 4 Al-Anon meetings in a row. I attended a decade ago and thought I didn't need it - ME change are you kidding?HE is the one with the problem! Needless to say, a decade later I see things differently!
Anyway, I asked someone to be my sponsor last night and she said YES! I am so EXCITED!!!!
Now.... what does that mean? What does having a sponsor entail? I'm just curious to hear of other people's experiences...
It now means that you get a guided journey with someone who has less insanity and knows where the trail is and a lot of the potholes. It means that you are not going to try this trip alone without that valuable too.
It now means she gets to lay her life of recovery and before down before you and that you get to pick out the gold and gems she has earned during her recovery trip. It means that you get to humbly lay your own life out at her feet and point to the places that you would like to change also. It means you have a most valuable tool in your tool box and maybe the most important person you have ever met in your life...maybe just maybe.
This morning's meeting was on sponsorship...I reflected while others shared and was grateful I have a life that is so worth living and some recovery experiences and truths I can pass on to others.
I am happy for you. If your trip is like mine is...I am also excited for you.
Thanks for this post, Griz - reminded me I need to call someone who's interviewing me to potentially be my sponsor.
Gotta make arrangements to meet!
Glad you got yourself a sponsor, though - I've been going to meeting snow since late January and am only just now finally scraping up the courage to ask someone.
Good for you. I attended Al anon well over a decade ago. A friend of mine raved about what Al anon did for her. I could not relate but I now think it takes a while to find a meeting/group that is a "fit".
Having a sponsor is very helpful I have known people who come to view their sponsor as truly a significant person in their lives. Mine if a guide rather than a tyrant.
I "over react" a lot. I was once in another 12 step group that was really enmeshed and I could not get past my own over reactions to other people's relationships with each other. I spent all my time over reacting rather than processing. I am in a place where I am more independent now and not as drawn to enmeshment.
Good for you. Meetings and sponsors and all the literature are great help in our recovery. What made me get a sponsor was that I didn't feel like I could get thru my situation alone. I choose someone who had a similar background as me. I think she has been my sponsor for almost two years. I see her at meetings about every two weeks (I live in a different state) and sometimes we go to lunch. I usually call her every Sunday night. It has been so helpful to have her there to hear me out. When we exchange stories it seems to help us both.
