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So I talked w my ex A tonite.He actually thinks hes going to be able to "go away and get himself straight" and come back to me !!!! Like Im a couch or something !!(those of you who have been keeping up w me , understand the couch pun !!) Can you believe that ?? I guess after paying for and going thru w a divorce , Im supposed to sit around and wait for him to sober up and grow up..I told him if he gets kicked out of his brothers house he cant come here to stay.His reply was "guess Ill live in my van." I told him he wasnt going to make me feel sorry for him. WHAT a dingaling !!!!
Mine did that, too. He didn't find a decent place to live until I told him that I wasn't going to let him back even if he had to camp out in the snow. I stopped feeling sorry for him.All it did was get in his way of taking care of himself.
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
I didn't think her idea of doing somewhat the same thing was out of the question. I did love her (my then understanding of love) and wanted things to work out. The drinking and using and all the insanity that came with it didn't get out of the way. I stopped. I left. I didn't want to die crazy.
He still tells me he loves me everytime he can catch me on the phone (I'm pretty good at avoiding). I love the old couch comment LOL. Like we are not people with lives to live, we are merely there to serve their needs?
