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I tried to post a new thread after the"meeting" on Wed. nite, but I was quite ill both Wed nite and Thurs. so I never got a chance to finish it.
When I got home from work on Wed. my AH was in a foul mood. I determined that I was not going to mention the meeting, and that if he still wanted to go, he would be the one to decide if he was going to go with me. After dinner, he laid down on the couch for a nap, and I thought, well theres my answer. So I got ready to go to my meeting. At 7:00PM he got up, and got ready to go.
Now, HP has a sense of humor, because when we got there, my meeting had been cancelled, and there was no AA meeting that night either. We both looked at each other, and then he said, why don't we go and have a coffee at Big Boys. So we went to Big Boy (I had a banana split which was fabulous) and had a nice heart to heart.
I don't know whether he'll ever get to another meeting, but we had a nice evening anyway. I'll take them whenever I can get them.
The past few days, the lines of communication have been more open than they have in the past few months. He has also not had a drink since Monday. I'm still cautiously optimistic, and thanking my HP for a nice couple of days.
Right now, I'm in a "Wait and see" mode. I 'll keep you all updated.
Love and Blessings,
Claudia
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A person's a person no matter how small --Dr Suess
I have often said that there are days HP is laughing at me or with me. I'm glad you had a nice time. Enjoy every sober moment you have with him. When A relapsed I would hang onto those moments as a way of giving me hope. You never know if a seed has been planted. A banana split is something I haven't had in years. Sounds yummy. Have a wonderful weekend. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
It seems that the both of you made the best of it when it could have easily gone sour.
It seems like when we finally let go and allow them the dignity of making their own lives, they can want to get sober on their own. Could be "authority issues" if you know what I mean.
I've heard this in these rooms -- the 4 Gs Get off his back; Get out of his way; Give him to God; Get to a meeting.
Have a wonderful weekend, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
No seriously I see how much I need to change there are about 3 places in that story where I would have totally blown it and had no chance for the heart to heart at Big Boys!
Cookie, I loved your post. I loved how you just let it all roll and went with the goodness of it. Good for you, its great to see how you worked your program. I, too, have gone to meetings that were cancelled or I could not find them and then ended up either having the conversation I needed with an al-anon friend in the empty parking lot of the place or something else. It is still an hour set aside for whatever we choose to do. Thanks for the simple inspiration, Hugs, J.
