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Thank you for your great responses. They made me giggle and feel warm.
I bugged the massive mortgage company for seven hours. I had people all over trying to reach the two dept. supervisors I needed.
I am not kidding. Finally a person said, I am tired of this, she was??? lol she said she was going to walk to the gals desk who was to call me and did not, and tell her to call me.
After oh the computers are down, oh they are in a meeting, oh sorry it is lunch time now.
My bum hurts from sitting, I cannot sit.
So the gal apologises for not calling,I was nice, why be a B.She said you are right, I researched it back six months and there have been many mistakes.
She put all the fees etc. back to my account, Made the payment go down close to one hundred a month for two years, and then it goes down two hundred more for the life of my mortgage.
sigh. I also used a word they do not want to hear, "attorney." I don't hesitate to call lawyer referal for help.
Hey Alanon taught me the Serenity prayer, that was in my heart all day. Letting go too, so I did not get sick about it.Shared it with you guys who lightened it up big time.
So then I went out and pulled out nineteen t posts with this cool tool my friend Sharon brought over....wow slick. I felt it in my tendons that hurt so that was good.
Ok little more. My dear dear friend Cass is doing the regimen to rid her body of hep c. I called her and we yakked for hours.
Been friends since we were twelve.
She is so amazing,in all her illness from this horrible poison she is as funny, and loving as ever.
Ok it made me want to go home all the more. I realised guys, that I do not feel a sense of home here at all.After my AH left,I was stuck here.
I absolutely do not know what to do to move back to where I grew up and lived until nine years ago.
I want to be making Cass food,cleaning her house, cleaning up if something icky happens. I love this woman so so much.
We both know several other gals our age and we are close. They want me to move back.
Just hit me so hard how I want to go home. I have tried and tried to refi so I could go live there, but A really messed up my credit.It will never be ok.
I don't know what to do. Have problem solved and problem solved this for so many years.
If I could refi, I could keep this place rented, then take the money and buy another place,much simpler and much smaller. Affordable.
I do wish I was still able to work.Iloved my career so much.
Not depressed, just emeshed ?spell,in obstacle solving.
Isn't it Madonna who sing,"and it feels like I just got home..."
I was thinking,maybe if I got away, I could get where I wanted to come back, maybe feel like I miss home. ?????
Anyway, I know what you mean, I don't like where I am. I just got landed here. I am so far away from the sea and my family [son and daughter - though sometimes that has been a blessing as far as the latter is concerned, lol] and I have tried and tried to move back south. It never happens.
Cannot see me doing it either, unless a huge miracle takes place.
So, here I am trapped! Hey but, then I think. I have THIS family and I am okay, I can visit this family anytime of the day and night - and it happens to be very late at night or very early in the morning now, depending on where you are in the world.
Glad to hear you were successful with the mortgage company, no I don't hang back either, funny how the threat of an attorney gets them off their laurels.
Celebrating that WIN. Whoop whoop!
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Debilyn, have you heard of co-housing? Google it. A group of people form an organization who buy a building and then renovate it so each member gets a "unit" or portion. Each member pitches in what they can and provide services. It is all sorted out legally. Its pretty nifty. Also, there are co-ops which are kind of like this. You could get together some of your women friends and do something like this. Co-housing was popular in Denmark and Scandinavia for years. I used to live in a co-op and it was complicated, lots of meetings and boy you really need to work on being a good neighbor but it was good for me. Anyway, dream something up and ask Hp and Bingo, there it will be. Hugs, J.
I made the decision to come "home" and then turned the rest over to HP. I started moving by first getting away from the fear and doubt of it and then came home. This is where my soul was created and this is where it needed to be...so be it is.
You may have real obstacles. You do have real spirit and commitment and other assets. Go with them and trust your HP. Your HP is everywhere; even back home I will keep up hope for you.
Congrats on the tenacity and perseverence to get your loan straightened out. My sister works in the mortgage business and she has told me that whenever someone is a "pain in the rear", which includes tying them up on the phone, regardless of thier status or place in line, she will do whatever it takes to get their loan closed just to get rid of them. Glad it worked for you and that you had a good outcome.
In regards to moving home, I agree with the others here... Please don't look at it as an impossible situation, rather, see it as a goal. Friends make life so much easier.
Blessings, Lou
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Every new day begins with new possibilities. It's up to us to fill it with the things that move us toward progress and peace. ~ Ronald Reagan~
Sometimes what you want to do has to fail, so you won't ~Marguerite Bro~
I dont think I have ever felt at home anywhere. The nearest I get is when I am around my pets. I barely feel at home in my body let alone anywhere in the world.
Personally I have to stick pretty close to the future, a few months at best. I go into overwhelm if I think beyond that.
I do find that being positive and not catastrophizing (pretty hard if you are codependent like me) helps. Of course sometimes like anyone else I have to sound off and do it for a while before I can even begin to problem solve.
