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Yesterday I just had a great day - didn't think about my AH and our problems at all. He seemed to be in the same frame of mind, so we actually had a decent evening together. No sulking, no "silent treatment", no residual anger permeating the atmosphere.
Of course we both got tied up watching this crazy show on the Oh! channel called "Bad Girls Club" - if you've not seen it, think "Real World" with a bunch of catty women who think they're top b*tch. It was just funny watching how dysfunctional they all were, and it put my life into a great perspective - I could be living with someone like THOSE people in that show! Eeeesh! Scary!
But it was funny for me because I found myself watching these people with all their drama through the eyes of an Al-anon member. "Oh. That person's enabling." "Oh. That girl's completely caught in the disease of alcoholism!"
It was refreshing watching with my AH, too... because while he hasn't been attending any AA meetings to my knowledge, and he hasn't drank to my knowledge, he was making comments about one of the girls on the show who finally decided she needed help in regards to her drinking. He got mad at some of the other girls in the house who were saying unsupportive things to her as she worked to stay sober. It was just nice hearing him express those things, as at least to me, it sounded like last night he was in the "zone" of wanting to stay sober and not liking hearing other people try to sabotage another alcoholic's sobriety.
So... great day yesterday. I'm thankful for it. Thanks to my HP for giving me some serenity.
I don't know what your issues may be but I feel you are so lucky to even have one night like that with your person. Mine opposes ALL forms of emotional connection. That is so special I hope you cherish it always as you appear to be. Of course mine if faithful, doesn't beat me, yell or act crazy when drinking so I'm lucky too in some ways. But I just wanted to say what you have is so valuable! Please remember it during the hard times!
Sounds like you really had a good day. What a blessing for you. It sounds like your AH is beginning to get a perspective on his disease.
In my own life I have good days and not so good days. Sunday was one of the best I have had in a long while. We went to church then to breakfast afterward with our daughter and friends. We had a very nice day as a family, then went to evening church service.
Come Monday morning my AH had returned, I slept in and when I woke up he was drunk again as usual. I still have the memory of Sunday, though, and I'm thankful for Al-Anon which helps me to remain sane during this insanity.
Love and Blessings,
Claudia
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A person's a person no matter how small --Dr Suess
Glad you had a good day. I had a good weekend with my AHsober (separated). When I have a good day then I wish all days were that good. Not meant to be with an A. Oh well, be thankful for what you have.
