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I am confused but hanging in there! Anxiety got me yesterday and I feel like I need a break. I hope that I can start to feel better soon. I just need to say that I am confused and kinda depressed since I had a crazy weekend and am not in my right frame of mind still. I wish I could say more but because of anonymity I am unable to go into too much detail. Just the fact that the weekend affected me so much I feel kinda sick over it! I will say more later because I don't have much time to say anymore. I hope everyone who reads this will hang in for more info. I will get back to you all as soon as I am able.
I am no longer "with" the A and still feel a lot of anxiety and confusion about what happened. I spend a lot of time sorting it out. What were the red flags how did I ignore them, when could I have set limits, what did I do, how, when and more. That helps some.
thanks for your post Hoot- I know that feeling: I call it an emotional hangover. I no longer am living with any A's but I can remember those kinds of weekends. Keep us in the loop and take care and keep going to your meetings! We love you lots here- Hugs, J.
Thanks for taking the time to respond to my confusion. I am still struggling but am doing a little better. I am going to take it easy today and take care of me. The issue I was struggling with was another alcoholic calling my husband. I did email my sponsor and she had many suggestions. She pointed out that it really was none of my business. I need to let my husband do whatever he needs to do to maintain his sobriety and keep my sanity and gain a little serenity on my own. No human power can fix me; only God can and will if I seek him. I have to do the steps; even if they are baby steps. We are all in this together. Let's remember that we are able to support one another even if we just read and not even respond. So much to say and so little time to say it! Easy does it, right?
thats a great post Hoot, how right your sponsor is but its so hard to know this sometimes which is why we need program people AND ask them for help! The other day in a meeting I was talking about how I have been taking care of myself by asking for help alot lately. Someone came up to me and told me that two of the most holy words ever are these two words: "HELP ME"! We are all in this together, thank god.
I am so glad you brought up that "silent" majority out there who troll around and do a lot of reading. Yes, I think our posts are helping lots of people, not just us. But we are helping us too!! I am real glad that you post here, Hoot, thanks for your shares and perspectives. Hugs, J.
