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Having a rough night tonight....AH got his police report tonight on his OUIL, found out that he may be charged with more than a first offense, which means he could be sent to jail. HE is angry and frustated and wants to fight his ticket...I am just trying to LET GO AND LET GOD. As he ranted and raved about the "lies" in the police report, I just calmly listened...when asked for my opinion, I replied "I don't know, I wasn't there".
I am a SAHM with 2 elementary children, I am not scared of going back to work...actually I am ready to, but I am worried on how it will effect the children and how it will effect them if he does have to do jail time. He is their world! I am trying not to get worked up and I keep telling myself to LET GO AND LET GOD. HP will take care of us.
You already know how it will affect the children. Hug them with confidence and let them see your ESH. And ESH's share of the concentrated first three steps is the solution.
Mahalo ESH!! Keep coming back Tracy. (((((hugs)))))
What phenomenal willingness and detachment you have. I can still rage on about the A's criminal issues. I do try to detach these days. The other day I came across a DMV notice saying he had to pay another fine. I am so so glad I do not have to deal with that anymore. The A I was with would go on for ever on "poor me". I am very very impressed you can detach so successfully. I did a very patch work job. I can still be there in rage and reaction in a second.
Thank you for showing me a successful program. I know this is an awful time for you but your program is incredible!
Maresie, thank you so much for the kind words. But my ability to detach is solely due to my children and the need for survival. I CANNOT fall apart....I have to remain strong for them...to let them know that WE will be ok no matter what happens to Dad. I am scared...no doubt about it...I am scared of losing the house, the truck, my job at the school (if I have to get a full time job), the animals, everything. But that's why I can come here and vent.
My thinking is....I am not the one that is going to be sitting in jail....I will go on! I love him...but he did this to himself, so I no longer can feel sorry for him. And I have come to the reality that I can no longer depend on him financially....even if he doesn't get jail time, this has totally woke me up to 'what if something happened to him'. I have to become independent again.
