When I thought Al-anon was dumb.... - Al-Anon Family Group

CJ098 · Veteran Member

When I thought Al-anon was dumb....

Heartbroken · Senior Member

(((CJ,))))

Keep coming back, keep posting, keep reading, and you WILL FIX YOU.

You are not weak to stay in a relationship. You are right to make choices for yourself, and if one of those choices is to stay in the relationship that you are presently in, then so be it. It is your choice and no-one here will say you are weak for making that decision.

Never mind about the time you did NOT come here. What matters now is the fact that you are here now.

Thank you, for expressing your appreciation. It encourages those who have served here faithfully for years as it does for those who take the courage to share and have only been here a short time.

It gets better the more you learn, the more you read, the more you work the programme for yourself.

Welcome.

Hopeful

Aloha · ~*Service Worker*~

Here here!

Thanks for the great share.

travors · Member

Yeah I was the same, my councelor spent a year trying to persuade me to go to al-anon but I thought al-anon was for a bunch of whiners and broken people. What an utter utter fool I was.
When I eventually got so depressed that I tried al-anon it changed my life like nothing else I have experienced.
Every day I thank my lucky stars that al-anon came into my life.

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

I went to Al anon more than 10 years ago I absolutely could not relate at all. I really struggled. In the new Dr. Drew show one of the counselors said about 50% of the meetings he went to he did not want to be there. I can't say that about this board. I found such solace here and always feel like I can be totaly honest and open about what is going on in my life. I really struggle but never feel judged here.

I have found this board and found it much much better than many meetings I have been to. I went to various 12 step meetings for years.

Maresie.

serendipity · ~*Service Worker*~

I actually said to my A "Alanon is a bunch of whiney OLD witches sitting around crying because they married an A!" That was before I ever set foot in the roms. Turns out, once I did, I was the whiney one. And boy did I cry! And all those men and women, held my hand and gave me a hug and told me to keep comming back. Never have I been as loved as I am in this program. I am with you! Thank God for this program. It has saved my life!

glad · ~*Service Worker*~

This board has meant as much to me as the meeting so far actually encouraged me to go again. I think I'm beginning to "get it" as my first reaction was a bit like yours. Now it's not just about to stay or go but about me and how I can be better no matter if I stay or go and now I have a support system. How did this happen? Thank You Higher Power (God)

JenniferN · Senior Member

I thought the same thing when I first went to Al-Anon...what can I do to help HIM....but at my very first meeting I came to realize that it wasn't HIM that I needed to help/fix....it was ME!!!
I'm am so thankful for that realization and for that first meeting and for someplace like this.

great post and thanks for sharing it with us!

Jennifer

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