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I heard this in a meeting and it is sticking in my thoughts. I can only deal with things that are my business. I am losing the desire to pick up those things which do not belong to me. It is a very freeing feeling to go about life and not be concerned with what is going on in other's lives.
I hope I can keep feeling this way for the rest of my life because it feels good.
That's a great one. I have to remember that one, especially at work. Sometimes it's hard though because I think I can "fix it". WRONG. I always get myself in trouble when I do that. Thanks for the reminder. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Thanks Gail. I am now so conscious at what I do. I pick it up with my words and my actions. I am even stopping myself in mid-sentence and say to myself it is not my business. I feel soooo much better inside.
Gail, I always love seeing your name on the board. I think of you often since our situations were/are similar with our sons. You, however, seem to be doing so much better than I in getting yourself well. I like that about not picking up something that is not yours. I struggle with it constantly. We have had two very tough days with our son; he has not called to check on us (we both with illnesses) because he is so angry with everything. He blames me, especially, for what he considers collusions with his EX. She had told him that the affair with the man was over, that this guy was no longer in the picture. My son was so grateful because he was very upset that this guy was staying at the house with his little son present. Anyway, evidently Valentine's Day worked and the guy is back under cloak of darkness, but obvious. Now my son is mad at me because he said I KNEW this was happening. Not so, but now I do. So I am not picking it up......I have not called him either altho it is breaking my heart to know how he is doing. I am not picking it up because I cannot do a thing about it. I picked up a few weeks ago and helped financially for him to begin seeing a therapist to try and get over this nearly two year old divorce. Probably a big mistake; he has cancelled and re-scheduled his past two appointments. So yes, let us NOT pick up what is not ours. That is a real valid KEY in recovery, I think. And one that is so so difficult. Thanks for the reminder. I will hang on to that today as I take care of only the business which is mine to deal with. HP will deal with my son one way or another as HE will with the EX. HP will bless and protect the innocent little guy. I was so glad to see your post.
Gail - thanks for the reminder. That one is especially difficult for me to do. I need to write that down and keep it in front of me where I can read it several times every day. ~R3
